How to teach children "responsibility"?

time:2022-10-07 author:Make one's mouth water
How to teach children "responsibility"?

We often say that an adult is "too irresponsible", but do we know that "responsibility" needs to be trained from an early age, and it is too late to learn it when you are an adult. Can we imagine that a young child can consciously put away his toys every day, a primary school student puts his dirty clothes in a fixed basket for collecting dirty clothes, and can consciously brush his teeth every day? Imagine how easy it is for such a parent! But this kind of result is not innate to the child, it needs the training of parents bit by bit to develop. If this process is not done well, the child will feel that the parents are nagging, and the parents will feel that the child is disobedient and so on. How to train children to be responsible? First of all, we need to know what kind of training conditions children have at all ages:
  • Babies: At this stage, babies learn responsibility mainly through parents showing how to be responsible Parents, such as: the child needs breastfeeding when he is hungry, needs to be comforted when he is in a bad mood, and put away the toys every day. When the children can walk, they will also learn to collect toys together.
  • Children: At this stage, parents are generally willing to follow along in whatever they do, so they should encourage their children no matter how well they do. Of course they also have limited attention spans, so don't stress the results and just need encouragement.
  • Preschool: They can't brush their teeth independently but they can dress independently, and they can do simple chores. Involving children in chores will make them more confident.
  • Elementary school students: This age group can really take responsibility and give the child a daily must-do list and a time to complete it. They may forget or do poorly, but parental supervision and encouragement can be effective.
  • Adolescents: At this stage, in addition to requiring children to be responsible for their own studies and activities, they also emphasize responsibility for their families. They must do what they need to do. Participating in family management and planning is also important. very important training.

Several precautions for training children's sense of responsibility

1. Parents should be role models Parents are children The most important factor in learning responsibility, an irresponsible parent cannot raise a child who knows what responsibility is, let alone "responsible". For example: parents are always late at the promised time, their room is in a mess, etc. Children learn by their parents' actions, not by preaching. 2. There is a requirement for children's sense of responsibility to have different expectations for children of different ages. For example, children can be required to receive their toys in a fixed place every day, preschool children should wear their own clothes, and teenagers should help at home. housework, etc. There is no way for a child to learn what responsibility is without specific requirements. 3. Don't pursue perfection. Many parents only focus on the results when training their children's sense of responsibility, but do not pay attention to the process, such as: the floor is not clean, the clothes are not neatly folded, etc. Too much emphasis on the results disappoints the child and loses interest in doing things. It takes time to do it perfectly or not, and only encouraging children can make them stick to it. 4. Do things with children When training children, parents must also participate. Once children form a habit, let them do it by themselves. 5. Support and teach children. Children need to be taught hand-to-hand. If one fails, teach twice. Parents' patience is also very important. 6. Use specific tools to teach children There are some very effective tools that parents can use, such as daily must-do lists and timers, etc., so that children can learn what their responsibilities are and complete themselves on time list. 7. Timely feedback It is necessary to discuss with the child regularly whether the child's responsibilities are age-appropriate, the child's feelings and requirements, etc. Adhering to the attitude of helping the child can make the training smooth, and don't train the child with the attitude of punishment. Training children's sense of responsibility needs to start from an early age, and parents need to complete the steps of "demonstration-doing together-supervising children's actions-doing it independently". Of course, it is most important for parents to show their children that they are responsible people.
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