I.1.8 How to deal with the child's first rebellion?

time:2022-10-02 04:29:41source:monlittlebaby.com author:Fever
I.1.8 How to deal with the child's first rebellion?

Babies are growing up, about 3 years old, and when they are about to enter kindergarten, they begin to enter the "first rebellious period" in psychological terminology, which is called "Terrible Two" in English. This is a necessary stage in the normal development and growth of children, just like plants usually have to bloom, whether you like the flowers that bloom or not, the plants have to bloom before they can bear fruit. The main "symptoms" of the first rebellious period are: crying and making noise and denying everything! For your favorite candy? "No! I want juice!" To the freshest juice? "No! I want to eat Tangtang!" This is because the child suddenly "discovered" the existence of the self, thinking that only through "no" can they express themselves. Parents or close caregivers can be really annoyed when faced with such an unreasonable baby, and often solve the problem simply and neatly through high-pressure coercion or even violence. However, psychological research has found that if high-pressure coercion is used to deal with the first rebellious period, it is easy to create an illusion for the baby: there should be no self-will, and everything must be obeyed by adults. After all, the baby is still young, and it is difficult to tell when it is okay to "no"? What "no" is appropriate? This illusion of the baby may lead to a weaker personality, shrinking, easy to give up after adults, and even being too introverted, socially afraid, afraid to ask others and other common problems in adolescence. We also encountered our son's fierce rebellion at the beginning, and we asked the kindergarten teacher for help when we couldn't do anything. The teacher from Canada who just graduated from university taught us a very useful method: play the game of choice with your baby, and try to induce the baby to choose the option you expect, so that the baby will happily do what you want ! We applied it like this, and the effect was really better than we imagined, so we still think about the beautiful teacher who made us feel relieved from time to time. Later, through review and comparative analysis, I found that most parents ignore the age characteristics of their children, and at any time only use the universal principles to nurture their children, regardless of whether the children can accept it or whether they are willing to accept it. This situation is closely related to parents' time arrangement on the one hand and parents' parenting concept on the other hand. In fact, it is very important to update concepts to keep pace with the times. If you look at things in different ways and angles, the ending may be reborn. As for the specific content and gameplay of the aforementioned "game of choice" we play with our son, we will introduce them in detail in the section "Coping Tips in Real Scenarios". (Hint: Follow this account to get professional and practical parenting knowledge and experience)
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