My aunt broke the baby's birthday cake, what should I do? Different families raise different children

time:2022-11-27 06:31:09source:monlittlebaby.com author:Sneeze
My aunt broke the baby's birthday cake, what should I do? Different families raise different children

The picture comes from a video I saw a few days ago on the Internet. A little girl in Guangxi celebrated her birthday, and the whole family gathered together happily. The most exciting and most anticipated scene of the birthday party finally appeared, and the beautiful birthday cake was finally "invited". But the cake was not placed on the table, but on a chair. In an instant, the child's aunt, who had stood up to take pictures, did not look back, but suddenly sat back on the chair impartially. In this way, a birthday cake was accidentally broken by my aunt. The picture is from the Internet. It can be seen from the video that the birthday child cried in despair at the moment when the cake was damaged, and the child's aunt did not care that her skirt was covered with cake, and immediately comforted the child. It is a pity that the child is controlled by his emotions, and his crying is getting louder and louder. At this time, the whole family gathered around, not to help aunt clean clothes, nor to help aunt comfort the child, but to condemn aunt for being careless, destroying the atmosphere, etc... The picture comes from the Internet. I don't know if the aunt in the video was very good at that time. Sad, anyway, I feel a little "suffocated" when I look at it. Such a family atmosphere is destined for the children to cry and make trouble, and it is also doomed that the originally happy family gatherings will end without a happy ending. It is understandable for a child to want to eat cake and look forward to it. What child is not like this? It is understandable for children to feel sadness and pain when they see the things they are thinking about being destroyed. However, this is the truth. The cake has been broken. Can crying and scolding be able to restore everything? Obviously, not so. Then, as an adult, as a family member, everyone immediately divides the labor to help and find a way to make up for the child. You can comfort the child, I will order a new cake, or buy a small cake or a small toy for the child first... The child can be comforted very well in such an atmosphere, and the aunt can also be in such an atmosphere. , feel the deep affection. Pictures from online actions are better than all condemnation, and the unity and harmony of the family is the most precious thing, and it also leaves a deep impression on the child, and will subtly give the child the precious "How to deal with emergencies, how to A real-life lesson in cherishing family relationships. When a child encounters a similar situation again, it is not crying, despair, lamentation, nor shirk responsibility and condemning others, but will actively find a way and try to adjust the atmosphere, "guests and guests enjoy themselves" is the party The essence of it! We often say "family tradition, family motto, and family rules". In fact, it is not the various provisions left by the ancestors in the family, but an act of mutual respect, mutual understanding, common observance and effective continuation among family members. specification. The picture comes from the Internet. I remember when my eldest treasure was a child, I took him out to play. He accidentally knocked off the fruit cup I brought him, and the fruit was scattered all over the floor. The kid who was playing with him at that time looked at him with schadenfreude and said, "You are finished, your mother should quarrel with you." Dabao shook his head: "My mother will not quarrel with me, but I have to clean the ground first. "The kid looked at Dabao in surprise: "Really? It doesn't bother you?" I just walked over and handed Dabao a few wet wipes to clean up the fruit on the floor. I took the fruit cup. to clean. When I came back, the child looked at me and said, "Auntie, you are so kind." I was a little surprised. Did the child accidentally knock off the cup, not to clean it up, but to be quarreled? The mother of that child said to me: "If the child is wrong, they have to quarrel and punish him, so that they will have a long memory and will not dare to make mistakes again. You are too gentle, and they will make mistakes next time." The picture comes from the Internet In my opinion, isn't it a punishment for a child to tidy up the ground by himself? And the tenderness of the mother is the confidence of the child to move forward bravely! Later, because of the different views on education, the relationship between us gradually drifted apart. I don’t know how her children are now. I can only say that my big treasure is now in grade 8. The rebellious adolescence I used to worry about has not happened yet. Bad and uneasy, and not complacent because of an excellent grade; also gentle and polite in dealing with others; not extreme in character, not extreme in thinking, able to correctly view their own strengths and weaknesses, and growing up. Continue to work hard on the road; at present, he is still the small tree that is thriving and not crooked. The picture comes from the Internet In fact, raising children is a kind of exploration for all parents, but it needs to be cautious, because the growth of children cannot be repeated or reversed. What we can bring to our children is by no means empty and boring big truths. Often as children grow older, they will have more truths than their parents; nor are they babbling endlessly, because when something happens, children will Parents’ words and deeds often have a pre-judgment, and their pre-judgment is often very accurate. This accuracy is not only derived from the parents’ nagging, but also a powerful resistance to the parents’ nagging. The pictures come from what online parents can bring to their children. It should be a happy family atmosphere, where family members tolerate, understand and support each other. You must know that what parents do, bit by bit, will become the "original family" in the mouth of the child in a few years! The impact of the family of origin on the child is lasting for life. A warm native family will help the child's happiness in life!
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