The following parents are not raising children, they are raising enemies, and most of them will suffer the consequences in their later years

time:2022-11-27 author:Common phenomenon
The following parents are not raising children, they are raising enemies, and most of them will suffer the consequences in their later years

Text | Cheats Although many parents now say that they don't expect their children to support themselves in the future when they have children, they just accompany their children to walk in this beautiful world. However, parents work hard to raise their children, and they also hope that their children can be self-sufficient and at the same time be excellent and motivated. However, many parents in life will find that the child who had high hopes at the beginning has become more and more tense with himself as he grows older. The two are not like father and daughter, mother and son at all, but more like enemies. In fact, this is a problem with the education of the parents. The following parents are not raising children, they are raising enemies, and most of them will suffer the consequences in their later years.

A parent who spoils a child without any principle, and everything satisfies the child's parents

Raising a child is very simple, just overdoing it. The child is the treasure of the family, and everyone loves and loves him, and they all want to give him the best. But there must be a degree between pampering and pampering. If everything follows the child, everything satisfies the child, and even if the child does something wrong, regardless of the reason, he will blindly protect it. The child has never heard of it in front of his parents. Parents think this is love, but in fact it is harm. Parents satisfy their children with everything. Children have not been frustrated since childhood. They can get what they want easily, and get what they want without effort. Such children will only take what they have for granted, while being extremely selfish and self-centered, they feel that everyone else should follow them. As they get older, they get mad, angry, and hostile to their parents when their parents can no longer meet their needs in every way. So if you don't want to be enemies with your child in the future, and dote on them moderately, don't let your child develop into an extremely selfish person who doesn't recognize the six parents

Nurture the child with the harmony Education is given to the parents of the older generation.

Many young parents may be forced to give birth to their children due to the pressure of life after giving birth. Some young parents just want to relax themselves, and feel that they have completed the task by giving birth to their children. If they throw their children away to the older generation, they can be as dashing as they want. As a result, the older generation may play the role of grandparents or grandparents. , but actually took on the role of parents. The older generation can indeed be like the parents of their children, worrying about their children's clothing, food, housing and transportation, so that the children are not cold or hungry. However, no matter how careful and patient the older generation is, they cannot replace the role of parents and the emotional comfort to children, especially in the development of a sense of security and character building. Moreover, most of the older generation are next-generation relatives. They love their children, and they are reluctant to set rules for their children, let alone let them do things by themselves, so as to cultivate their independence. Therefore, you can see that the children around them whose parents are absent from their children's growth and who are brought up by the older generation are not only not deeply affectionate with their parents, but most of them have personality defects. When parents realize their children's problems and want to educate their children, they find that the children don't listen to them at all. When they want to use their authority to the extreme, and have immediate effect, this will only cause the child to resist even more. The parent-child relationship is getting worse and worse, and finally becomes like an enemy. [Topic discussion: Are there spoiled children around you? 】Senior nursery teacher, psychological consultant. He understands parenting and psychology, and also pays attention to the mother's self-growth and family management, and strives to be a caring person for mothers. Welcome to [Parenting Cheats], you can find the answers here for everything you want to know about parenting care, growth and development, family education, and mental health!
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