It is distressing for a three-year-old boy to be abused by his father: how many parents use their children as emotional outlets

time:2022-11-27 06:36:38source:monlittlebaby.com author:Diet
It is distressing for a three-year-old boy to be abused by his father: how many parents use their children as emotional outlets

I was watching the video in my spare time and was surprised to see a record of "A three-year-old boy was abused by his father, and he actually pulled out the child's nails with his own hands. It's not as good as a perverted animal." My heart was deeply shocked: there are such parents in the world! This man took the children out to find his wife because his wife ran away. Because of the inability to find his wife, he drank heavily and beat and scolded the children on the road. Near a store, he sat on the side of the road with his child, drinking hard himself. The child was crying beside him. Both his left and right hands had their fingernails broken off, and the blood was obvious. The man turned to break the child's nails again, and the child cried in pain. The child is only about three years old, as the saying goes, this man is a pervert! The nearby crowd stepped forward to stop it, and the man also punched the children and the crowd. The crowd grabbed the child and called the police. The police took the man away and the child was taken to hospital for treatment. The man was detained for injuring the young child, who was temporarily rescued by the orphanage. Enthusiastic volunteers are actively looking for the child's mother, because the child's father has violent tendencies and is not suitable to exercise custody over the child. Fortunately, the final outcome was to find the mother of the child. At this point, everyone's hearts were settled down. In fact, the child's mother ran away because the child's father had alcoholism and violence. The mother's departure further stimulated the child's father, so he lost his mind and abused the child like crazy. Some people say: Humans are half angels and half devils. When rationality is lost, people become devils. I have seen the actual record on the video: a couple quarreled, and when the quarrel was out of control, the man actually picked up the child and slammed the chair, once or twice... The man completely forgot that what he picked up and smacked was a life, yes own children. At this moment, the man only has full hatred for his wife, and the child abused by himself has his wife's blood on his body, is his wife's love, and his wife cares. Abusing children has become a man's hatred for his wife... The man who broke his children's nails, never knew the pain of breaking his nails, but he did evil deeds by drinking alcohol to vent his hatred for his wife! How many innocent children in this world have become the outlet of their parents' emotions and the object of their hatred. A couple who were sentenced by the court last year for abuse and intentional injury sent their daughter to her grandparents' house after giving birth to their daughter. They took her back when she was five years old. In the following years, they said that the daughter was disobedient and punished her. Education", its "education" method is extremely bad! They cut her with fruit knives, beat her with iron clothes hangers, tied her hands with wrapping ropes and hung her from a wardrobe to prevent her from sleeping, did not give her food, kicked her hands at will, and died of craniocerebral injury due to blunt violence. The way parents treat their children is not education at all, but parents are venting their dissatisfaction and venting their emotions. Click on Baidu and enter "child abuse". The cases are shocking. There are texts and videos. It can be said that the evidence is overwhelming. Thanks to the development of modern technology, some ugly acts cannot be avoided. However, in reality, how many children have become the emotional outlet of their parents and suffered undeserved pain, but no one knows, and even their parents don't even realize it. Once on the way from get off work, I met a mother who was beating an eight-year-old child violently. The child was trembling and his voice was trembling and crying: "Mom don't beat me, I'll change, I'll change..." But the mother didn't care. Move, still beat and kick the child. I stepped forward to stop it, but my mother yelled at me: "Go away, my child will teach by himself, it has nothing to do with you!" She didn't understand at all, when her child's education has turned into violence and abuse, then what is the point? It's not really her own business. There are roughly four psychological reasons for parents who are violent and abusive to their children in real life. One is the bad relationship between husband and wife, they vent their resentment towards each other on the common child. Such psychology tends to be more violent, more frequent, and more vicious and prone to abuse. The second is the low quality of parents themselves, and there is a great pressure to survive, they regard their children as their "punch bags". Such examples are more common in families with lower living standards. The third is the extension of the "pre-psychology" of the original family. Such parents were also subjected to domestic violence and even abuse when they were young. When they grew up, because of the "subconscious" and "stick education" thoughts, they unknowingly changed from victims to "violators". Fourth, there is a misconception that children are born by themselves and can be "disposed" at will. These parents do not regard their children as independent individuals, ignore their children's sense of sovereignty, and allow their own interests and emotions to treat their children. Cursing and beating at random has become the norm. There is a question about "child abuse psychology" on Zhihu, and the answer is straightforward. 1. I have a mental illness. 2. He was hurt in his childhood. 3. Too much pressure to bully the weak. 4, will not educate children. Many people who have a bad relationship between husband and wife are actually not mentally healthy, and many people who have been injured in childhood are mostly traumatized and shadowed, and their mental health is more or less problematic. Learn to face yourself and actively seek help to avoid possible tragedies. When the relationship between husband and wife deteriorates, his mood also deteriorates, and the only way out is to let go. If you really can't tolerate each other, then breaking up is the best responsibility for yourself and your children. The breakdown of any marriage is not a single person's problem. Even if it is completely the fault of the other party, at least there is a problem in knowing people. Therefore, letting go of resentment and starting your own life is the best choice. When you are no longer entangled in the past, you will naturally not have too many emotions, and you will not pour out your emotions to the children, and use the children as an outlet to vent your emotions. Even if you can't adjust for a while, when your emotions strike, you should try to avoid children. When your own temper comes up, give yourself dozens of seconds to meditate quietly. If the negative emotions cannot be resolved by yourself, you should take the initiative to ask friends or even professionals for help. Only when you are emotionally stable can your child grow up smoothly. The educator Makarenko once said: "In a good family, there will never be violence. This is the most correct way of family education." Life is complicated and life is not easy. No matter how stressful life is, children commit Mistakes should not be linked to stress. It is the responsibility of parents to nurture their children and let them grow up healthily. When parents do not go with the flow, some people call it the greatest career in life. If they do not pay enough attention, they may inadvertently allow their negative emotions to ruin their children. "How to be a parent" needs to be learned, and it is learned actively and consciously. As a parent, you must understand that domestic violence is illegal, and the same is true for your own children. child. As long as there is enough respect and love for the child, the child will naturally not become an outlet for his emotions. Author: A working mother of two children who waits for the wind to come. She holds a pen in her left hand and her baby in the right. She likes to read, write, and draw. She firmly believes that even if life is a piece of chicken feathers, she still has her own longing poems and distances in her heart. Follow me and continue to give you Provide more parenting dry goods. (The picture comes from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete it)
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