It's not prejudice: people with complete families are better off marrying people who grew up in single-parent families, they can't live together

time:2022-11-27 author:Diet
It's not prejudice: people with complete families are better off marrying people who grew up in single-parent families, they can't live together

Text | Cheats Everyone knows that love and marriage are two different things. When it comes to falling in love, everyone can just rely on feelings and love. But marriage is not enough. If you choose to enter marriage, you must consider many practical factors. My cousin wanted to get married, but she encountered great opposition from her parents and family members, and she is still arguing with her parents. My cousin found me and cried and said, "When I didn't have a boyfriend before, when I didn't want to get married, my parents were anxious and wanted to pull a man on the road to let me get married. I finally talked about my boyfriend myself, and I felt that the two of them had various aspects. They are all in tune and have plans to get married. My parents stopped immediately after learning about her boyfriend's growth background, just because her boyfriend is a single parent? What's wrong with being a single parent? My sister's boyfriend grew up in a single-parent household. The man's parents divorced since he was a child, and he grew up with his mother. Although her career is stable and her appearance is good, her uncle and aunt knew that it was a single-parent family and immediately opposed it when she grew up, and the family did not agree. Actually I don't agree either. Not prejudice, as a parenting editor, the particularity of my career has allowed me to meet many children who grew up in single-parent families. There is nothing unusual about their usual character and behavior, but when the two have a conflict or encounter something, the flaws in their character are exposed. The cousin grew up in a happy and complete family of origin, thinking about the beauty of falling in love, but never wanted to get married and live. It was a game with the personal family of origin, and there was compromise and tolerance where personal shortcomings were constantly exposed. It's not a prejudice: people with complete families are better off marrying people who grew up in single-parent families, otherwise they won't be able to live together.

Children of single-parent families are likely to have obvious character flaws

Never deny the influence of a family of origin on a person. There is a light of confidence in those eyes, and at first glance it seems that most of the children who grew up in love have a happy family of origin. And those children of single-parent families, especially those whose parents died earlier or divorced earlier, most likely will have personality problems. Childhood is a critical period in the shaping of a person's character, which requires full love and correct guidance and education from both parents. Being a single-parent family means that there are changes in the family at this time, and they are forced to bear family changes when their characters are shaped and formed, resulting in life changes and accompanying pressures and difficulties. If no one guides them correctly and conducts effective psychological counseling at this time, it will most likely cause some psychological and character problems, such as sensitivity, vulnerability, insecurity, isolation and indifference, etc. This is unavoidable. I heard that children of single-parent families always have an impact on career or marriage. Living with such a person for a long time requires great patience and tolerance. Otherwise, quarrels and conflicts will continue, and at this time, many children who grow up in single-parent families will have their flaws fully exposed, and they will easily become hysterical and go to extremes.

People who grew up in a happy family of origin and single-parent families have different attitudes toward marriage

Children of a complete and happy family of origin , They have a good vision for marriage, and they are all positive about life. And those children who grew up in single-parent families have lived in incomplete families since childhood, and most of their growth has only been in the role of one parent, and they will feel that this is the norm. Therefore, they are afraid of marriage, and it is even more difficult to manage marriage with heart. The post-90s actress Chun Xia once said in a show that all the women in her family were divorced, and her parents also divorced when she was very young, and she was raised by her mother. She said that there is no trace of happiness in marriage and happiness in family life from any of the women in her family. It seems that this is the impact of single-parent families on one's view of marriage. [Topic discussion: Do you have children who grew up in single-parent families around you? 】Senior nursery teacher, psychological consultant. He understands parenting and psychology, and also pays attention to the mother's self-growth and family management, and strives to be a caring person for mothers. Welcome to [Parenting Cheats], you can find the answers here for everything you want to know about parenting care, growth and development, family education, and mental health!
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