To make children smarter, parents must first learn to play with their children

time:2022-11-27 06:57:07source:monlittlebaby.com author:Sneeze
To make children smarter, parents must first learn to play with their children

Every child likes to play, and prefers adults to play with them. But as soon as they hear that they want to play with their children, many parents start to have a headache and are unwilling. They feel that their children's games are childish and boring, and they don't know how to play with their children. In fact, both for children and parents, children and playing with them are very important. For children, play is the foundation of children's development and learning. Children learn knowledge, acquire abilities, accumulate experience and grow up through play. For example, by playing problem-solving, role-playing and individual games, children can build self-confidence; by playing some role-playing and group games, children can experience love, safety and happiness, exercise their social skills, and improve language communication skills , and learn the ability to take care of yourself, others and the environment; exercise through running, jumping and other sports. In the book "Playing Power", it is mentioned that if parents do not spend time and energy playing games with their children, it is likely to lead to estrangement and disharmony between parents and children, and children may be very rebellious in the process of growth. For parents, the process of parents playing with their children is also a process of education. Integrating education into games can make children change from "what you should do" to "I am willing to do it", stimulate children's internal drive, and make children interested in working hard. This effect is often stronger than what parents ask their children to do. hundred times. Children's "play" can be divided into two categories: undirected free play and directed play. 1. Unguided free play Free play is the best play for children. It is play that happens randomly and completely according to the child's current interests. There is no parent's plan and no specific goals. Children can move freely in their own small space according to their free imagination. This type of play includes creative play, imaginative play, and exploratory play, alone or freely with other people. Such as painting, playing house, role-playing and other games, as well as going to parks, zoos, amusement parks and other places to play. Of course, this kind of play is not completely free in the absolute sense, and still requires the participation of parents to give children certain correct guidance and protection. For example, Xiaoli likes to draw, her mother will spend nearly an hour every day to accompany Xiaoli to paint, first prepare paper, pen and paint for Xiaoli, ask Xiaoli what she plans to paint today, and then quietly accompany Xiaoli Read a book on the side and let Xiaoli draw freely by herself. This is a very nice unguided free play. 2. Guided play Guided play generally refers to more organized play under the leadership of an adult, with limited time and goals. Such play includes: reading stories, taking music lessons, learning to dance, swimming, and various sports activities. One thing to note is that guided play is best guided by a professional, such as a coach, teacher, not a parent. Too much involvement and guidance from parents is likely to backfire and cause children to resent. Especially when the child is "in control" of the game process, it is not appropriate for parents to interrupt the game in the middle. However, if parents appropriately "lower" their posture during play, or participate in the game as a child, it will make the child happier and promote a more intimate and harmonious parent-child relationship. So, how can parents play with it better? 1. Create a family environment suitable for play First of all, parents should put down their mobile phones, and also let their children put down their mobile phones to give children boring time. In addition, parents should leave space for children to play, allow the room to be cluttered, and place toys on the ground to make the home feel like a home with children. 2. Choose games that suit different stages of children. Each child has different interests and characteristics at different stages. As they get older, children become more creative and want to explore more toys and games and try more ideas. Therefore, parents need to give their children more time, space and support as they grow, and choose games that are suitable for their current stage. For example, in infancy, parents are the best toys for children. At this stage, children are most interested in the faces and voices of their parents, especially laughter. Therefore, listening to music, singing nursery rhymes, playing hide-and-seek, and gently tickling with children is the best play that can promote children's hearing, motor, tactile, social and emotional development. From 2 to 4 years old, the child begins to have a sense of independence, and the basic functions of the body are gradually maturing. At this stage, parents can choose practical and sports games, such as pushing and pulling large, light-weight objects such as cardboard boxes, to practice running, jumping, pushing, pulling and other abilities; play clothes-changing role-playing games to exercise imagination and imitation; Play in safe outdoor hillsides and small caves to exercise your physical strength and exploration ability. Between the ages of 4 and 6, children are more independent, more creative, like more challenging games, and have an increased need for movement. At this stage, all the safe household items at home, such as old newspapers, old clothes, etc., can provide children with space for imagination and creation, which is very suitable for children to play freely. At the same time, simple building blocks, puzzles, all kinds of plasticine, soft pottery, percussion music toys and ball games are all good choices for children to play, which can cultivate children's imagination, creativity, memory, and fine motor skills. Wait. As children get older, there are more and more games to choose from. Play is an activity that shows children's extraordinary exploration, imagination and decision-making ability. Therefore, parents must pay attention to play and play with their children better, so that children can grow up healthily and happily.
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