Don't care if you can remember things before the age of 3, most of the children brought out like this have excellent memory.

time:2022-10-07 13:46:56source:monlittlebaby.com author:Common phenomenon
Don't care if you can remember things before the age of 3, most of the children brought out like this have excellent memory.

CD Mom CD Mom and Dad "Children before the age of 3, do you remember anything?" Every time we talk about early childhood education, there are mothers in the background who ask this question. I always worry that a little baby who is less than 3 years old can't remember anything. Even if I teach him something, will it be of little use in the future? of course not! Let's go back now and think about what happened before the age of 3. It's really hard to remember anything. But that doesn't mean that experiences before the age of 3 are unimportant. Those brand-new experiences when playing with toys, the new vocabulary learned when reading picture books, and the happy emotions when playing games with parents... will all remain and become important learning experiences for them. As the saying goes, no step is taken in vain. What's more, they are not completely "unremembered". Otherwise, how did they learn to distinguish between parents, learn language, and learn how to play toys? 1. The characteristics of memory before the age of 3 Many mothers may feel that the memory of children is really confusing. Some things I don't remember, some things I remember, or I didn't remember before, but now I remember... To be honest, this is the characteristic of children's memory before the age of 3. 1. The memory duration of children at different ages In the process of growth, children's brain functions are constantly improving, and memory will naturally show periodic characteristics. Regarding memory in children, a study shows that by the age of 6 months, memory can be maintained for 24 hours. At 9 months old, the memory has been retained for 1 month. By the age of 2, the memory lasts for about a year. Moreover, at this time, they can form memories of new things through brief contact and learning. For example, when my sister was reciting ancient poems, DD was always beside her. What all of us didn't expect was that when my sister got stuck in reciting, DD actually took over. They also remember the details and complex features of some things and describe them smoothly. Take DD as an example. I bought a toy car of an excavator for DD the other day. I didn’t expect that the moment he got it, he said to me, “Mom showed me the blue car.” To be honest, I almost forgot. Now, if it weren't for the testimony of a circle of friends, I would suspect that he was talking nonsense. This happened a year ago... But ah, don't be "happy too early", many babies often remember things when they are 3 years old, and then forget them. why? This has to be mentioned, the common "infant amnesia" in babies around the age of 4. But mothers don't have to worry. There is a theory that babies forget some things precisely because their brains develop too fast. The neurons responsible for memory are constantly growing and updating, with new connections replacing old ones, causing the original memory signal to disappear. I have also talked about this before. When CC was 3 years old, I still remember going to the beach at the age of 1. My father didn't go with us for work. . I guess that's how the saying "children before 3 years old don't remember things" should come from. 2. What memories will the child be impressed by? The child's memory is fragmented, but if you want to say that it is completely cleared, it is not necessarily true. For children, there are 2 kinds of memories that are usually reserved or even impressive. The first is procedural action memory. Even though the child forgets most things, there are certain procedural actions that will be remembered. For example: sitting, walking, jumping, running, hugging, etc. When the child tries repeatedly, it will slowly take shape in the memory, and it will be unforgettable for a lifetime. The second is emotionally intense, deeply felt memories. Certain strong emotions and feelings have a high probability of being remembered by children. Previous studies have found that children's brains will choose the things that are more stimulating, more sudden, and most emotionally volatile for memory storage. This is actually an instinctive response in zoology, originating from the human self-protection mechanism. In simple terms, it can be positive emotions such as happiness and warmth. For example, CC always remembers that on her 3rd birthday, my aunt gave her a long-awaited elsa, and she was happy for several days... It can also be negative emotions such as sadness and disappointment. For example, being yelled at, a parent's promise of a reward not being fulfilled, a newly received gift accidentally broken... It is very realistic that the impact of negative emotions is often stronger than the positive. In the future, children may not be able to remember the early scenes, but they will have memories of related negative emotions. Maybe one day they will suddenly experience emotions and cause psychological trauma. You see, a child's memory doesn't completely disappear. This is also the reason why we often say not to perfunctory, deceive and rough treatment of children. 2. How to improve children's memory We are talking about short-term memory. Although the capacity is small, it is the basis of future memory. The importance of memory, I believe I don't need to repeat it. What we should pay more attention to is, how can we improve children's memory? 1. Give new feelings and benign stimuli As we mentioned earlier, some strong emotions and feelings are easy to remember. We do not advocate negative behavior, but we can "do the opposite" and give the baby positive, strong and rich stimulation. For example, in order to give children a richer experience as much as possible, we can take them outdoors more often. You must know that children's cognition of the world actually starts from picture input and sound input. The outdoors is definitely the most abundant place for beautiful pictures and natural sounds. Almost everything the child sees is vivid, and what he hears is almost always pleasant sounds, and every time he feels something new. Everything outdoors, the visual and auditory stimulation for children, is fresh and intense. When children feel with their heart, they will naturally feel more impactful and impressive. Unconsciously, memory is so improved. 2. Make sure you get enough sleep I watched a TED video on sleep before. We all know that the hippocampus in the brain is responsible for memory. When we are exposed to some new stimuli, sensory data is temporarily transcribed into short-term memory neurons and then into the hippocampus. And when we go to sleep, the cerebral cortex and hippocampus are in constant dialogue. At this time, declarative memories temporarily stored in the hippocampus are repeatedly activated and slowly transferred to the long-term memory storage area of ​​​​the cerebral cortex. Simply put, the hippocampus acts as a relay station for memory formation. Through sleep, it converts short-term memory (what we just learned) into long-term memory, which is stored in our cerebral cortex. But if you don't get enough sleep, the hippocampus, the information storage place, may start to "rotten". People's inner OS: Do you want to change long-term memory? Sorry for not getting enough sleep! Therefore, it is not enough for us to receive fresh stimuli, because these may only be short-term memory for children. If you want to "remember" (short-term to long-term), you must have enough sleep. Regarding sleep duration and some methods of coaxing sleep, I will not expand, you can look through our previous articles. 3. Guide children to review and consolidate memory "Replay" is something I often do with my two children, including when improving memory. In my opinion, every review session before going to bed is a good time to help children enrich and consolidate temporary memories. For example: Some time ago, there were many animals in the place where I took my two children to play. When replaying the game that night, I would deliberately ask: "What animal did you see first today?" - "Ostrich." "What did you do at that time?" - "Grass, hello."... In this way, to guide children to recall and describe what happened during the day, to further deepen the impression. We can appropriately help children add details that they did not notice at the time, which is really effective in helping children enrich and consolidate temporary memory. It should be noted that when we help children review, we try to recall specific details, and mainly let the children narrate. Because the more detailed the memory is, the clearer the picture will be formed in the child's mind, and the deeper the impression will be. And simple narration is the key to unlock the child's memory. Listening is remembering, speaking is remembering. Only by listening and speaking can memory be deepened. Mother C said that there are individual differences in children's memory. No one can guarantee that in the end the child will remember what or not. What we have to do is to calm down, no matter whether the child remembers things before the age of 3, don't be perfunctory. Help children as much as possible to enrich and consolidate the memory of the early stage, and then guide the children to improve their memory. During this process, children may not remember all the specific things, but they will definitely remember the love from their parents. This will be the source of self-confidence when the child develops all abilities in the future.
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