There are three manifestations of children getting up and going to school in the morning, indicating that self-discipline is poor, and if they do not pay attention, it will affect their grades

time:2023-01-30 author:Fever
There are three manifestations of children getting up and going to school in the morning, indicating that self-discipline is poor, and if they do not pay attention, it will affect their grades

Text|A schedule of Tsinghua Xueba's previous work and rest table by Jingma was popular all over the Internet. The schedule on the schedule was so densely written that people with claustrophobia would feel dizzy when they read it, and put every minute and every second into consideration. Arranged just right. When sharing his experience, Wu Jingtai, the top student in the college entrance examination in Hainan, mentioned that my daily routine is relatively regular. Meng Ruijun scored 723 points in the college entrance examination of Nanning No. 3 Middle School in Guangxi, and he also mentioned self-discipline when sharing his personal experience. Therefore, self-discipline is a very important ability for children to achieve good academic performance. The so-called "self-discipline" is the ability to manage oneself. Whether or not your child has self-discipline can be seen from the way he gets up in the morning to go to school.

When a child gets up in the morning and goes to school, if there are three manifestations that indicate that his self-care ability is extremely poor, parents must develop the first manifestation as soon as possible

: It's already seven o'clock in bed, I'll sleep a little longer! The alarm clock rang at 7:10, hurry up, wait a moment, and be late, the child pretended not to hear, covered the quilt and went to sleep for a while! Many parents wake up their children in the morning, but they feel very tired. After nagging for a long time, the children are unwilling to get up! Staying in bed indicates that the child has poor self-management ability and poor self-discipline ability. The second performance: dawdling, such as brushing your teeth and washing your face, it took 5 minutes to get things done, but he didn't do it for 10 minutes. When he got to the toilet, he played with his toothbrush, got toothpaste, and washed his face. At the same time, it was too imaginary. Children who dawdle are also a sign of poor self-discipline. The 3rd performance: Losing things. Many parents ask their children to pack their schoolbags by themselves, but when children pack up their schoolbags, it is very easy to lose them. Either they have forgotten to bring a pen or a red scarf, and such children have poor self-discipline. If your child has the above three manifestations when he gets up in the morning and goes to school, it means that his self-discipline ability is relatively poor, and his self-management ability is relatively poor. As a parent, you must cultivate your child's self-discipline in a timely manner. Otherwise, when the child grows up slowly and the learning task is heavy, without sufficient self-discipline, the child's academic performance will be difficult to improve.

Cultivate children's self-discipline, parents do these points

The first point: give children the opportunity to choose independently Tao Xingzhi When giving a speech at Wuhan University, he brought a rooster and a handful of rice. He held the rice in his hand and forced the rooster to eat the rice with the other hand. As a result, the rooster was frightened, and instead of eating the rice, he flew around with his wings flapping. . He sprinkled the rice on the podium at will, away from the rooster, but the rooster took the initiative to peck at the rice. Educating children is like feeding chickens with rice. If you always control children and force them, this will not only destroy the inner motivation of children, but also stimulate children's rebellious psychology. It is more difficult for such children to be able to complete a thing independently . So when we want to let children do something, try not to force them, but give them the opportunity to choose. For example, do you do your homework first or play first today? If the child chooses to go to play first, then he will do his homework very late at night. If he bears such consequences many times, he will know that he will have more fun after finishing his homework and play first, and he will not have to doze off his homework at night. The second point: avoid nagging and let the child experience the consequences several times. For example, the child forgot to bring the pencil case to school. You obviously saw it, but don't rush to remind the child or help the child to take it. When the child goes to school to do his homework and finds that there is no pen, he can only ask his grandfather to tell his grandmother to borrow it from a classmate next to him. After several visits, he will know that he must remember to bring a pencil case in class. The third point: Use spiritual encouragement instead of material encouragement. For example, the child will be given 100 yuan for the first place in the test. Such material encouragement is actually not conducive to the child's ability to develop self-discipline. American psychologists have done a material reward experiment. They put a small mouse in a homemade wooden box. The mouse accidentally stepped on the wooden box and triggered the mechanism to get food. After several times, the little mouse easily mastered getting food. skills. But this kind of enthusiasm and satisfaction didn't last long, and the little mouse got tired. It only pressed the mechanism to get food when it was hungry. Usually it didn't walk in the wooden box, so the material reward can only have a temporary effect. . What we should give children is spiritual rewards, such as giving them a satisfied smile, playing a parent-child game with them, and taking them out to the park. These parent-child company are more exciting than material rewards. The fourth point: find more advantages in children and give praise hint. For example, a child usually does his homework very slowly, but one day he writes half an hour faster than usual, you say to him: "Baby, you did your homework quickly and neatly today, you are very hardworking and diligent, and you will definitely be in the future. Become a very self-disciplined person." If you keep praising your child and constantly hinting at your child, the child will really become the kind of person you praise, which is actually the famous "Rosenthal effect". Fifth point: Step by step Bad habits are easy to develop, but good habits are not easy to develop, and the development of good habits needs to be gradual. Therefore, to cultivate children's self-discipline, parents should not worry, change slowly, do not urge their children, do not nagging every day, and find that the child has achieved positive praise for the child, and then slowly increase the requirements, so that the child becomes a real Self-disciplined child. The sixth point: we must first solve the child's inner needs. For example, when our child is writing English homework, he writes very slowly. I am very angry. I said why you haven't finished writing for so long, and then he followed up with him. I said I can't write. If parents do not understand their children's needs, but just blindly ask them, this may dampen their enthusiasm. Therefore, we must understand the inner needs of children in order to effectively solve the problem. Parents who do the above 6 points are more likely to cultivate self-disciplined children, and self-disciplined children grow up slowly, which can save parents a lot of things. Moreover, children's learning motivation is stronger and their learning ability is stronger, which not only saves trouble but also saves money. After all, there are a lot of school selection fees now. (The pictures are all from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete)
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