Does the child roll around whenever he is emotional? Try these methods, it's a hundred times more effective than yelling

time:2022-10-02 04:25:43source:monlittlebaby.com author:Maternal-Child Nursing
Does the child roll around whenever he is emotional? Try these methods, it's a hundred times more effective than yelling

Many parents have responded that today's children are really getting more and more temperamental: if they can't say it, they will explode when they are criticized; if they can't do it, they will get angry when they ask for it; if they can't be wrong, they will get angry if they don't go well; if they can't wait, they will cry over the little things. Make trouble; if you can't touch it, you can start a fight if you don't agree. . . . . . . "I won't get up if you don't buy it for me!" I read a news on the Internet before. The child took a fancy to a toy in the window and wanted his parents to buy it for him, but there were enough toys at home, and his parents didn't want to. Buy it for the child, the child will cry and make trouble, and finally lie on the ground and roll around, and will not get up without buying a toy, thus "threatening" the parents. The way my father handled it has aroused discussion among netizens. The father watched the child cry for three hours, ignoring him. Many netizens think that Dad's approach is very witty. He subdues the child without making a fuss or making a fuss, and he doesn't buy toys, but I don't think this is the best way to deal with it. Leaving the child alone and letting the child cry and make trouble in public is not a good parenting quality. There is no good or bad mood, but there are good and bad ways of expressing emotions. You can vent your emotions, but you can't affect "third parties". Today, let's talk about the child's temper, and how should parents deal with it? First of all, let's understand the reasons for children's throwing: 1. It is normal to want things when their needs are not met, but parents cannot satisfy them for some reasons. For example, they like to eat sugar and ice cream. For the protection of children's health, parents cannot blindly rely on their children, but how can children understand the good intentions of their parents? 2. Careful parents who hope to get their parents' attention will find that children only splash in front of their parents or the people closest to them, and children will not do this in front of others. Many children like to play tricks and pranks, mainly to attract the attention of their parents. Today's parents are generally busy, working during the day and spending time with their children only at night. Therefore, children may "retain" their parents in this way, so as to get their parents' love. 3. "Blackmailing" face-loving adults when they go out shopping, buy things they like when they see them, and cry and roll around when they are slightly opposed. Because of their face, adults have to compromise in public. After one or two times, the child has tasted the sweetness, and his willful temper is getting bigger and bigger. Just like the kid in the opening news. When a child loses his temper, parents should avoid these misunderstandings: 1. Use violence to control violence. Many parents have had this experience. Children's temper is often for no reason, regardless of time and place, leaving us at a loss and even losing face. The little angel becomes a little devil in seconds, and some parents will start to scold and even beat their children as punishment, and finally successfully suppress the children. In this process, parents usually focus on their children's behavior, and despise their children's emotions. But while the child's negative emotions are suppressed, the parents are rude, and the child will follow the parents to learn rudeness, and then there will be an endless loop of "ruthlessness with violence". 2. Peace of mind. Children want to play with their mobile phones as soon as school is over. If they don't give it to them, they will lose their temper. Even if their parents are reluctant, in order to avoid conflicts, they adopt a peaceful attitude. This kind of mentality often stems from the parents' unacceptance of the expression of bad emotions in children, which actually contributes to the backlog of bad emotions, which is not conducive to children's learning of emotional self-control in the process of expressing bad emotions. Over time, children may become accustomed to dealing with problems in a cathartic way. 3. Boys don't cry "Don't cry, man, be brave!" Crying is not a sign of cowardice, and boys also have various psychological needs. Once the right to cry is deprived, the boy's emotional expression is prone to obstacles. 4. A slap, a sweet jujube Facing the child's bad temper, sometimes it is pleasant, sometimes violent, and children who are treated like this will have a hard time trusting and respecting others and themselves. 5. Label the child's emotions "You bad boy, why are you so rude?" "It's a crybaby! It's annoying! Just throw it out." The "negative label" you put on the child will easily distort the child self-concept. 6. It's just preaching "Look! I didn't tell you that long ago..." When a child is sad, sad, and angry, emotions have dominated all consciousness, and it is not a good time to instill rules and admonitions. When parents confuse boundaries, children will be at a loss and never know what to say; if parents have no standards themselves, children will have no rules. Only when we face up to the child's bad mood and see the hidden appeals behind the bad temper can we turn the problem into an opportunity for growth. If the child is angry, parents can do this: 1. "Your crying is useless to me." If the baby loses his temper at every turn, it means that he is accustomed to crying to achieve his goals. He has tried crying. The "sweetness" of the trouble, he will think that my parents are most afraid of me crying, as long as I cry, I can get the toys I want. The first thing parents have to do is to let the baby clearly understand that "your crying is useless to me", but I care about your feelings. You can calm down for a few seconds, then hug your baby, let your baby talk about the reason for his tantrum, and accept his thoughts and emotions. 2. According to the age group, help children to express their emotions correctly. Children's crying is an expression of emotions. The best solution is to teach children how to express their thoughts and learn how to express their emotions from an early age. This problem should be solved by age group: 1-3 years old, try to meet their needs. Children at this stage have been able to communicate with others and have their own self-awareness. Most of them are in the stage of getting what they want. In the face of children of this age, parents should try to reason with them as much as possible, so as to appease the children's emotions, and at the same time let the children realize why some needs cannot be met. Children over the age of 3, clearly explaining the reasons for rejection Children over the age of 3 have been able to communicate with their parents normally, and can better understand the reasons why parents reject certain unreasonable demands. Therefore, the education of children around the age of 3 is particularly important. Parents should not just satisfy them, but also clearly inform them where these needs are unreasonable, and their stance should be firm. 3. Cultivate children's awareness of rules In life, parents can discuss with their children how to set rules, what can be done, what cannot be done, and what rewards and punishments will be given after doing so. This is also a method I like to use with Yuanyuan, but if you want children to strictly follow it, the premise is that parents themselves must adhere to the principles. When a child should be rewarded for doing good deeds, parents must keep their word, do what they say, and not perfunctory, otherwise the child will lose his temper because of being hurt, and will also lose trust in the parents and the rules will lose their authority. sex. 4. Lead by example and control one's emotions Parents are role models and imitation objects for children. When children lose their temper, they must first control their emotions and not lose their temper at will. Only when parents teach by example can children treat problems rationally. . A good example is worth a thousand words. Before dealing with your child's emotions, deal with your own emotions first. Finally, I want to tell parents that education is not a cure-all, and it takes time for children to change. Cultivating emotional power is an ongoing process. As long as parents invest time and patience, and use skills and methods, they can adjust their children's emotions and let them know that they can choose and be the master of their own emotions.
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