Do not catch grades in elementary school! Do these 3 things well, and it's hard to get bad grades

time:2023-02-07 author:Sneeze
Do not catch grades in elementary school! Do these 3 things well, and it's hard to get bad grades

C Mom CC Mom and Dad have been promoted to the third grade this year, and the jumping that I was worried about before has not happened. Whether it is the learning rhythm, progress, or daily schedule, everything is still the same, basically we don’t need to worry too much, CC You can do it yourself. People around me say that Dad C and I are Buddhist, but I want to persuade you, don't rush to get your grades before the third grade! 1. Why don't you rush to get grades in elementary school? Probably the identity of CC Grandma's primary school teacher, told me too many stories of her students. When CC was in primary school, she told me: "Grade 1 and 2 of primary school, don't be too anxious to get CC grades". why? There is such a set of data: children from elementary school, junior high school to high school, a total of 1.3 million knowledge points in their 12-year learning career, but the primary school stage takes 6 years, and the knowledge points learned only account for 3% of the 1.3 million. In particular, before the third grade, most of what children learn is dead knowledge, addition and subtraction, pinyin literacy. These basic skills can be mastered by children quickly or slowly, sooner or later, and the differences will not be very obvious. However, learning knowledge points in advance and grasping grades are often at the expense of consuming the child's own interest and the joy of learning. After it is consumed, it will not be found later, and it may also cause children to be disgusted with school. Moreover, the learning content in the front is simple, and children are forced to repeat learning, which is easy for children to develop the habit of being passive and lazy. In the later stage, the difficulty increases, but the child is used to dealing with it, and it is easy to be overtaken or even dropped. A head teacher once sighed: "Learning is more and more not something that can be done only by IQ. Many children do not get good grades because of long-term laziness, lack of perseverance and good study habits, which eventually lead to "accumulation of laziness. Stupid". Many children who have been unable to achieve good grades are mostly not because of stupidity, but because of laziness and bad habits. This laziness is manifested in two places:
  • One is behavior, not wanting to learn, passive and lazy, procrastinating or perfunctory. Eventually indulging in short-term low-level happiness.
  • The first The second is laziness in thinking, impetuous, and unable to calm down. If the problem is a little difficult, he will not say it. If the learning content is boring, he will desert. /ul>2. These three things must be done well in primary schools. If IQ is determined innately, many good habits are acquired. A scholar is not only high IQ, but also needs good study habits Support. We always say that we need to develop good study habits for our children, but what do we need to cultivate and how to do it? Do you have the bottom line? Doing these three things well can be 100 times better than your future nagging children. 1. Reading Therefore, I have always emphasized reading because it is really important. Reading comprehension is the foundation of learning all subjects well. Even math application problems, if you can’t understand the problems, you can’t solve them. Composition and reading comprehension are these The two scores both test whether the child has enough reading speed, reading accumulation, and ability to read transformation and comprehension. A few days ago, I was looking at CC's workbook, and the teacher marked a sentence. This sentence is imitated When I read it, I also feel very visual. I have received many questions: C mother, what are the benefits of reading more for children? I can't see it? In the past, it was difficult for me to explain the benefits of reading more for children in a few words, but The bigger the CC, the more I find that the benefits are everywhere. The most important thing is that this kind of precipitation cannot be achieved quickly without accumulation over time. Recently, I observed that CC has never been afraid of making sentences and compositions after going to school. Moreover, we look at the previous college entrance examinations. The champions and the top scholars all have one thing in common, that is, they start reading from a young age. Yes, the earlier you start reading, the better. The more you read, the better. No matter how you say it, you won’t get tired of it. But there is one thing you need to pay attention to. , in the early stage, we should focus on developing reading interest and reading habits, but in the later stage (that is, when the child is older), we need to pay attention to reading methods. 2. The ability to plan time and independent planning Children without the concept of time will not have high learning efficiency. I often complain about children. Every day I do things that can be delayed, and learning requires adults to "watch and stick to it" without any self-consciousness. In fact, it's no wonder children. Children are visual creatures, and they have absolutely no sense of time and sequence logic. Concepts, in many cases, it is not that they deliberately do not do it, but that it is not entered into the brain system at all. Therefore, the more specific the things that children have to do, the better, we can comb the things that children do every day. It's better to make a flow chart. What if the child still doesn't do it when things are sorted out? Here is a "pomodoro clock method" recommended for everyone: Step 1: Set homework time If there is no set time, it is impossible to have work/study efficiency. Human nature is lazy and procrastination. Why do many children dawdle? There is no sense of urgency. It is half an hour of homework, and it is also an hour. Why worry? Only time can relate to speed. Therefore, be sure to state in advance the work/study you are about to start, and how long it is expected to be. For example, on a math paper, if you don’t tell the time, this homework may take a long time. If we stipulate 40 minutes, CC will watch the clock count down, and you will have a sense of urgency, so you can concentrate and even finish it early. Step 2: Enter the state to drink water, go to the toilet, and prepare stationery. Once you start, you can't leave the desk. Let the children regard each Pomodoro task as the state of the exam. Don't drink water for a while and pee for a while. Don't ask questions during the process, do what you can do first, and finally solve the problem. Once you start "eating tomatoes", only Can do what is planned. The third step is to take a 5-minute break every time you "eat a 25-minute tomato" when you start eating tomatoes (the time setting depends on the child's status and tasks). It should be noted here that you must give the child time to rest before proceeding. A "tomato" so that it can be sustainable. You must know that it is more important to learn to complete the homework efficiently than to finish it in the end. 3. Improve children's concentration Many parents complain about their children: If you can worry about doing homework every day, it's okay if you don't start. Even if you start, you will be thirsty and hungry for a while, you need to go to the toilet, the pencil is broken, and the eraser is not good. Makes... all the things that have been done and not done before the start have to be redone again, and the concentration is really bad! But when it comes to children always deserting and doing foreign jobs, is it really that children have poor concentration? Our brain is composed of three parts: the instinctive brain, the emotional brain, and the rational brain. The instinctual brain is responsible for survival and safety. The emotional brain controls emotions and feelings, it only likes pleasure, not pain. The rational brain, just like its name, is more rational. Every time we do something, these three parts come into play at the same time. If there is one drag, it won't work. The reason why the child loses the chain when it comes to homework and study is either because the task is too heavy and a little difficult; or the pressure/expectation from the parents and teachers is too high, and the child resists, no matter what kind: Emotional brain thinks: Ah? It's math, Chinese, English, and art. It's troublesome and painful to write. If you don't write well, you will be scolded by your mother. Oh, no appointment. Even if the baby's rational brain wants to start, but the emotional brain has been deaf to the ear, so it has been delayed. That's why students with poor grades are more perfunctory. No matter in class or at home, they don't have 3 minutes to determine. He may want to work hard himself, but he can't stand his emotions and subconsciously hold him back! Once you know the underlying logic, you know how to change it. My method is: make difficult things easier, and split tasks. Help children split big goals/tasks into small goals/tasks, each of which can be reached on tiptoe. For example, let’s write math first, um, just one page, exactly one Pomodoro for 25 minutes, and take a 5-minute break after writing. Shall we make a fruit salad? Let the emotional brain listen, hey, the task is not difficult, and there are good things to complete. Make it a little confusing, without the emotional brain holding back, the rational brain will naturally be easier to persevere. At the same time, remember that parents must lower the evaluation standards of their children, blame less, and see the children's efforts and progress more, so as to increase the children's "sense of accomplishment" in doing this.
    • Wow, you can master such a difficult question!
    • These lines are so neatly written and very progressive~
    Deliberately help children accumulate this feeling, because repeated Experiencing "I'm awesome" can form emotional memories for children. Mother C said: If you want your child to establish an independent and efficient study habit, you must go through a period of jumping around, even to the stage where you can't accept it. This is the real parenting of children. Don't pursue quick success, master a method, persist, persist and persist! Other than that, there are no other shortcuts.
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