#Dad was scolded as a hooligan for undressing and washing her 2-year-old daughter#! Is sex education too early?

time:2022-11-27 06:03:16source:monlittlebaby.com author:Diet
#Dad was scolded as a hooligan for undressing and washing her 2-year-old daughter#! Is sex education too early?

CD Mom CD Mom and Dad I saw a hot search on Weibo yesterday: A father in Tianjin stripped and washed his 2-year-old daughter, and was called a hooligan! At first, I thought it was another trend of cyber violence, but after a closer look, hey, it was the father who was scolded by his daughter as a "rogue". It turned out that the mother just showed the baby a book on understanding human organs that afternoon, and the child remembered not to touch her body for boys, and this is the scene in the video. There are also different opinions in the comment area: some people praised the parents' awareness of sex education and praised the little girl's strong gender awareness; but some people bluntly said: is 2 years old too early? To be honest, I have similar thoughts. Let’s put aside the incident itself and just talk about the physical boundaries of children of the opposite sex. Is 2 years old a bit overkill? If you want to conduct sex education, how to control this degree? How to control the physical boundaries with children? As old friends know, I've always agreed with the idea of ​​"sex education as early as possible". If you keep your mouth shut from a young age, then when he grows up, you suddenly say, "Come on, let's talk about sex." What is this? It's like a large social death scene! Even if you don't care about the death of the society and are willing to talk to the child, the child may not be willing to listen. Because under your long-term prohibition, the child has cut the connection line to communicate with you in this regard! According to statistics: Most of the sexual knowledge of Chinese teenagers comes from books, film and television dramas, and the probability of parental education is only 4%. When encountering sexual problems, less than 10% of children will ask their parents, and the remaining children will choose to be bored in their hearts. Therefore, for young children, sexual enlightenment should start as early as possible and naturally, just like language enlightenment and cognitive enlightenment. Speaking of which, mothers may have questions: If you think sex education should start as early as possible, why do you think 2 is too early? In fact, it is not that sex education is too early at the age of 2, but it is too early to deprive the opportunity of intimate contact with the opposite sex at the age of 2. Sex education is not a homework at a certain stage, but a process in which we and our children trust each other and are willing to share this private topic with each other. How to be willing to share, how to generate trust? This root is actually in the close relationship established early with the parents. The father to the daughter, the mother to the son, is the first opposite sex they come into contact with in their lives. At a young age, getting along in such a loving environment, whether it is a warm hug or a close snuggle, can bring a sense of security. At the same time, it is also laying the foundation for the establishment of a correct gender concept in the future. If you deliberately guide the child to avoid it at this time, it may make the child unable to form a correct understanding of the elders of the opposite sex, and deepen the curiosity or resistance to the body of the opposite sex. Therefore, within the age of 2, some physical contact should still exist. But after the age of 2, the control of physical boundaries needs to be taken seriously. First, 2.5-year-old + opposite-sex parents do not take off and change clothes in front of their children. What parents do has always consciously or unconsciously affect their children. After the child can go to the toilet independently, dress independently, and take a bath independently, we must give him a real privacy space. Before creating this private space, you first need to lead by example and do it well. When DD was about to be ignorant, we would tell her before changing clothes, "Dad/mom is going to change now. I'm going to close the door for a while, wait a minute!" Take some time for yourself, close the toilet door, if DD needs to come in, remember to knock on the door!" Let the child realize from the parents that "some things belong to personal privacy and need to be done behind closed doors, so that no one can see them. ". Let him first learn to "respect other people's privacy", and as the child grows up, he will gradually form the concept of "protecting his own privacy". So he was toilet trained for 18 months. When he had a bowel movement, he knew that the toilet was going to be closed, and he told his sister, "Don't watch DD"! At this time, don't tease the child, for example: "Yeah, I know you're shy!", "Hey, you were born to me, there's nothing I can't see!" This will make the child feel the privacy concept that he has just formed. Doubt arises. Second, 3.5-year-old + opposite-sex parents should try not to bathe together. Children around the age of 3 already have a certain sense of privacy. Taking a bath by same-sex parents can better help children consolidate their sense of privacy and remind them that they should not look at nakedness of the opposite sex, and their nakedness should not be easily seen by the opposite sex. After the age of 3, it is best for the father to take the son to wash, and the mother to take the daughter to wash. American psychologists and child protection organizations recommend that the age of parent-child bathing should not exceed 3.3 years old, and the age of helping bath should not exceed 4.7 years old. From the age of 5-6 at the latest, parents really don't want to bathe with their children. Children at this stage begin to enter the first sexual development period, the sex bud period, when the body begins to secrete sex hormones. Children should be allowed to take a bath independently, clean their own private parts, and parents should try to avoid children when bathing. This helps to enhance the child's awareness of self-protection. 2. Besides, what else can we do? Sex education for children, these two methods are also very useful. 1. Teach children to recognize body parts After the child is 2 years old, he begins to be curious about his own body and can notice the difference between male and female bodies. At this time, we should tell him the names of the corresponding parts frankly and accurately, including private parts such as breasts and genitals, to satisfy his curiosity. The best time is in the shower, but of course when changing clothes. Whether you are a same-sex or opposite-sex parent, your own body is the best teaching material. Using their own body, children can clearly recognize the difference between body parts and male and female sex organs. It is worth noting that when we introduce to children, we should use the most professional terms to introduce sexual organs. When communicating, we should be as natural and calm as introducing other parts of the body such as the nose and eyes, and don't be twitchy. Parents calm is the greatest natural. It is also very impolite to tell the child that the place covered by the shorts and vest is the private part, and it is not allowed to be seen and touched casually, and it is not allowed to show or play with the private part in front of others. We have to tell the child clearly and let him understand which key parts are his privacy. 2. Taking children to read sex education picture books Reading picture books is undoubtedly a good way to educate children about sex. When my generation was young, parents tended to take an evasive attitude towards our sex education. This also leads us to be at a loss when we want to give children sex education, and do not know how to give them correct sex education. In this case, picture books can just solve this problem for us. Because picture books are divided into various themes, there can be both those that recognize the body and those that distinguish between genders. And ah, picture books are a unique form of literature for children. The professional children's words in the picture book can completely answer the questions that we find embarrassing, making it easier and more accurate for children to understand and understand. Just in normal times, I also show the two children related sex education picture books, take advantage of this: The first book: "The Secret of the Body" (this set is available in our store, click on the picture to enter) The second book : "Our Body" (this book is also available in our mall, click on the picture to enter) If we intend to educate children about sex, but don't know how to speak, you might as well read it with your children. Mother C said that for children, the importance of sex education is beyond doubt. However, judging from the current environment, bringing a baby is basically the participation of the female role (mother/grandmother/grandmother), and the role of the father is missing in most cases. Dads, however, actually play a key role in sex education. If there is only a mother, it is not easy for a child to form a comprehensive gender role cognition, and it will also affect his understanding of gender. Therefore, I also call on fathers to participate in family education as much as possible, and husband and wife can take care of their children in all aspects.
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