If you want your baby to be popular in kindergarten, you must not say these 3 words to offend the teacher

time:2022-12-02 11:35:50source:monlittlebaby.com author:Make one's mouth water
If you want your baby to be popular in kindergarten, you must not say these 3 words to offend the teacher

3 weeks into the school year plus Teacher's Day, the parents are really busy lately! Not only was the new semester in a hurry, shopping... The whole family went into battle to send the child to kindergarten, but also opened up a very rich inner drama. Some mothers took pictures of teachers for a long time without their own children worried: "I don't know how the children are at school? Does the teacher not pay attention to my baby?" Some people posted on the Internet: New parents from the child's meal to the toilet, All kinds of little things are all private messages to teachers. The teacher feels like a nanny! The past Teacher's Day was also the highlight, and giving gifts to teachers was put on the agenda by many parent groups. There are even family committees who plan and prepare carefully, in order to give the teacher a "surprise". But as a result... this is not the first time this has happened. Last year, when Sister Gua’s son was in the first grade in the office, the first thing the newly established family committee did was order flowers for the teacher. But the flowers have not arrived yet, and the school has issued a "no gift agreement". In the end, the parents who ordered the gift hurriedly returned it and had to pay liquidated damages. From the perspective of onlookers, these parents are really anxious and frustrating. But only those of us who are parents can understand that everyone is just so that the teacher can look at their children more. To be honest, although we understand the above communication methods with teachers, we do not recommend them. In order to avoid detours, we interviewed several senior mothers who have another special identity: teachers of kindergartens and elementary schools. From their point of view, I will give you some advice - how parents can communicate effectively with teachers. I believe that everyone can avoid a lot of detours. The teacher's idea is not what you think. A primary school teacher with 10 years of teaching experience told us: I am most afraid that the parents of the first grade will ask me, "Teacher, how is my child?" , what I want to say most in my heart is: "Who are you?" It's a bit funny, but it's also true. It is even more necessary for everyone to know the truth: there are dozens of students in a class, and the teacher really has no energy to take care of everything, let alone treat them differently! Therefore, in the face of parents who especially want attention and a sense of presence, the teacher feels a little helpless, big-headed, uh, even disgusted. From the interviews of several teachers, the most unpopular typical scenarios are as follows: Asking "how is my child" at the first opening For teachers, such broad questions often do not know how to answer. If you can report your family first, then talk about your child’s situation and ask some specific questions, your communication with the teacher will be more efficient. For example, instead of asking, "Is the child doing well today?", you can say, "The child is very interested in math class these days, but he can't keep up with his writing. He doesn't know what the situation is at school. Please pay more attention to the teacher." To deepen the teacher's understanding of the child, it is also easy to help the child more accurately. Teachers will understand that you are a responsible parent, and communication will naturally be smoother. I don’t pay attention to the class information, and I always ask the teacher if I have any questions. An interviewed teacher said that the class will inform you what to bring the next day every day, but there are two parents who never read the notice and often ask questions that have answers in the group through private messages. . Another parent, the teacher notified the school uniforms to be issued today, and everyone went home to try the size. But after 3 days, the parents said that they did not see the school uniform, and the child did not take it back at all. All these situations left the teacher speechless. Bringing the "Unspoken Rules" of Adults to School Some parents want to exchange some "preferential treatment" from teachers for their children with some small tricks of adults. A teacher mentioned that the lunch quota in the class is relatively tight, and students need to draw lots to decide. A parent called to come to the school to help draw lots, and even hinted that he would give the teacher a "benefits" to change the places. But the teacher admitted that the real feeling is: "Not only is it embarrassing, but also feels insulted." Imagine that a child of us can make a whole family paralyzed. The teacher faces thirty to fifty children in a room, that kind of pressure... You taste, you taste carefully! In this case, what teachers need most is parents' trust and effective communication. Both parties work together to make children adapt to school life as soon as possible and make teaching go on the right track. Others are really not that important. This kind of communication is more popular with teachers. Since there are some communication scenarios that make teachers head big, everyone must want to know: how to communicate so that both parties can be free from burdens and be good to children? We also help you summarize this in the interview! Helping children adapt to the learning environment and develop study habits Almost every teacher interviewed mentioned that parents attach great importance to children's learning and the cultivation of behavioral habits, which teachers can see from their children. Such parents will communicate with teachers clearly and clearly, and they are very willing to cooperate as teachers. For example, a teacher said that there was a child in the class who was very skinny in his homework and ugly in his handwriting. The mother found out, and specially approached the teacher to communicate, asking the teacher to pay attention to the situation in the child's classroom. The teacher would deliberately beat him during class, and his mother took him by his side to watch his homework for a year, and soon the child's habit was adjusted. This kind of cooperation and communication is what parents need and what teachers are happy to see. Participate well in the parent-teacher meeting The parent-teacher meeting is a special time for parents to communicate with teachers. The teacher knows which child has regressed and improved, and the most important ones will usually take the initiative to communicate with the parents. Of course, this does not mean that parents can only wait for the teacher to criticize or praise. The teachers' suggestion is: parents can provide some information about their children at home, such as not writing at home, not concentrating... The teacher will naturally Children's overall learning status in school is a comparison, which is conducive to finding problems and intervening early. Regular communication is possible, but there is no need to force communication. In addition to parent-teacher meetings, usual phone calls and face-to-face communication are also possible. However, some teachers mentioned that some parents have no major issues, but they really want to make an appointment with the teacher for dinner or coffee to connect with each other, which is really unnecessary. For example, a third-grade teacher in primary school said that there are children in the class who are good in all aspects of learning and behavior, and it can be seen that the parents are paying attention. However, the parents themselves only call the teacher once a semester, and there is no problem with this. There are also mothers who regularly find an opportunity to chat with the teacher once every 2 months to grasp the situation of the child. "These are all ok. We know that both parties are paying attention to the child's growth rhythm." Don't worry too much about the more important education. At the end of the family interview, what the teachers unanimously wanted most was the understanding and trust of the parents. ▲A teacher from Weibo said: "If you can, please give more trust to teachers and parents to yourself. There is too much anxiety in education today, but I hope everyone understands that anxiety does not solve the problem, it can only make Deformation of action leads to more anxiety." What is the real educational solution path? It is everyone who can reach a consensus: parents and schools are the two legs of education. They are not antagonistic, but collaborative and complementary. Today's public school education provides a uniform, universal curriculum model for most children. Today, when children's growth is more individualized and social concepts are more diverse, teaching children in accordance with their aptitude requires families to shoulder irreplaceable responsibilities. At the same time, family education itself is longer than school education, lifelong and exemplary education. Therefore, we certainly hope that the child will meet a good teacher, but we cannot rely on "meeting a good teacher" for the child's growth. Every parent is their child's teacher. You can put down your phone every night, have a good chat with your child about the day's study, pay attention to your child's schoolwork, read a book with your child... It is a good home education. After reading today's article, I believe everyone will find out: If you have to say what kind of parent the teacher prefers, the answer is very simple - responsible parent. Instead of thinking about giving gifts to teachers and attracting their attention, it is better to devote more attention to home education. The understanding and support of parents is the most wanted gift for teachers~ Source of pictures: If there is any infringement in the parenting life of rice cake mothers, please contact to delete
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