Three suggestions for new mothers, both sincere and practical, new parents should take a look

time:2022-12-02 14:17:20source:monlittlebaby.com author:Baby bones
Three suggestions for new mothers, both sincere and practical, new parents should take a look

My soon-to-be-mother cousin asked me if I had any parenting lessons I could teach. I said "a thousand babies and a thousand faces", my parenting experience may not be suitable for you, but there are three suggestions, I hope you can use it. I also hope that these three suggestions can help more new mothers! Recommendation 1: It is best to choose a confinement center within one month after giving birth to a baby, which is the most vulnerable month for women physically and mentally. I suggest that families with the ability should choose to go to the confinement center for confinement. 1. Avoid the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that affects the mood. After giving birth, female hormones will change greatly, and the heart will become very fragile. If the mother-in-law takes care of the confinement child, there will inevitably be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which will affect the mood of the new mother. Choosing a confinement center and having a dedicated person take care of it, mother-in-law can save worry and conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will naturally be avoided. 2. The confinement center can take care of Mommy in every detail from diet to daily life. Guoguo has set up a confinement center when she is 5 or 6 months pregnant. In the month after giving birth, although only her husband was by her side, she was well taken care of. The baby cries at night. In order to allow the mother to have a good sleep, the parenting sister-in-law will take the baby to a special room to take care of it. Three meals a day, including after-meal meals, will be properly arranged by the confinement center. There is no need to think about what to eat next meal and how to match nutrition. There will also be doctors who regularly come to check on the mother's body. Even if you go to the hospital, you don't have to worry that the baby will cry to the point that the mother is not around. 3. Experienced parenting teachers, once the child has a problem, can also help the newborn. There will always be various problems, which is a big problem for new mothers. Inexperienced, do not know how to take better care of the child, will inevitably feel emotional anxiety, or have to take the child to see the doctor before confinement and so on. However, in the confinement center, if a single child has a problem, an experienced parenting sister-in-law can help the mother solve some problems, which will give new mothers a lot of peace of mind. Suggestion 2: Let my father participate in parenting. My colleague Xiaoma started to work less than 3 months after giving birth to her baby. Although her mother-in-law was at home to help look after the child during the day, she still came to work with dark circles under her eyes every day. When it comes to the child's father, he can't help but complain, saying that his husband is a complete "hands-off shopkeeper". "He never helps me look after the baby at night. Sometimes it's annoying to hear the baby cry. Either he asks his mother to help, or he runs to the living room sofa to sleep. I really don't know what's the use of him?" Have your husband tried to take care of the children? Xiaoma said, "Yes, but I don't feel relieved to see him being clumsy." You see, new mothers feel that their husbands are clumsy and do not feel relieved to leave their children to him, while new fathers also have no confidence in themselves and dare not touch the newborn , over time it has become "widowed" parenting. The wife does everything herself, complaining about her husband's incompetence, and at the same time exhausting herself to the point of death. Who can blame this? After all, from the very beginning, she gave her husband an excuse to stay out of it. Therefore, we must let the father participate in the parenting, and do not do everything by ourselves. If you want your father to participate in parenting, you need to do two more things: First, give your father more opportunities. For the arrival of a small life, the father is full of expectations early on. But when I saw the soft and waxy baby, my father was more timid than worried. They didn't dare to hold it for fear that their clumsiness would hurt the child, not to mention taking care of it every day. In fact, the same is true for mothers. Although women have a natural maternity brilliance, they are the same as their fathers when they meet a newborn. They are all timid. Later, mothers became more and more skilled in taking care of their children. If Dad were given more opportunities, they would take good care of them. From the initial clumsy to skilled, it was nothing more than a process. Tips: Don't forget, new mothers need more time to rest to ensure that their bodies and emotions are healthy. The second one is to encourage Dad more. Good Dad is encouraged. In fact, no matter how old a person is, they like to hear words of encouragement. The same is true for the father. The encouragement of the mother can give the father more confidence. If you always despise Dad for being clumsy, then his enthusiasm will be dispelled. If you give Dad a lot of encouragement, his motivation will be higher. Involve her husband in childcare from a young age, avoid widowhood parenting, and the child is even better in all aspects. A study shows that children raised by fathers have higher IQs, learn better, and are more likely to succeed in society! Suggestion 3: Pay attention to yourself first, then pay attention to your children. With the increasing development of information, we can always receive some news of "young mother jumping off a building with a few months old child". What crushes these new mothers is postpartum depression. According to the survey, 6%-54.5% of postpartum women in the world will suffer from depression, of which my country accounts for 20.03%. Being a mother is a happy thing, and why do these mothers suffer from postpartum depression at a happy moment? Observation found that they all have one thing in common, that is, they focus all their energy on their children, while ignoring their own health and emotional issues. When these accumulate to the top, it will crush the new mothers. Therefore, as a past person, I would like to tell mothers that they must pay attention to themselves first, and then pay attention to their children! 1) Pay attention to your own health. The elderly often have the saying that "having a child is life-changing". It is not an exaggeration at all. It is difficult for women to give birth, and only women themselves know. Postpartum, the body will also have a lot of discomfort, natural delivery may have the pain of tearing, and caesarean section has a long recovery period. Including the pain of engorgement, breast hyperplasia, etc., many problems will follow. Coupled with taking care of children day and night, sleep is not guaranteed, and there will be great problems in physical health. As a new mother, you must first ensure your own health before you can see your child with peace of mind. The 42-day postpartum review is a must! 2) Pay attention to your emotional health After becoming a mother, the focus is basically on the child, especially in the first few months, many parenting problems need to be explored slowly. During this process, the mother's mood will become anxious, which is the root of postpartum depression. Therefore, you must pay attention to your own emotional health and express your emotions more candidly with your husband. 85% of men are rough, and they are not so careful to perceive the psychological changes of women. Maybe you want him to pay attention, but he only sees children and mobile phones in his eyes. Don't be embarrassed yourself, but tell him frankly that this behavior will make you feel bad. Of course, some people may say: Even if you tell them, they will not understand. Then change your emotional outlet and find a hobby, such as crafting, photography, listening to music. In short, let your emotions have an outlet to ensure postpartum emotional health. Conclusion: I like a sentence, you are yourself first, then your mother. Only by being ourselves and making ourselves healthy and happy can we play the role of a good mother! (The picture in this article comes from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete it)
Related content
Hot content