I.2.5 Young children cry unreasonably? The magic is one foot high, the road is one foot high, there is a way

time:2022-10-07 18:22:51source:monlittlebaby.com author:Baby care
I.2.5 Young children cry unreasonably? The magic is one foot high, the road is one foot high, there is a way

Parents have encountered the unreasonable crying of young children, which is actually an inevitable experience of the child's growth process: the child's intellectual development and growth has just reached the level of "unscrupulousness to meet needs", and he still does not know how to distinguish occasions, priorities, or better. inferior, order, etc. But from another point of view, children who know how to use crying to "coerce their parents" will definitely not be much worse in intelligence. Faced with such a "dilemma", parents who are a lot smarter than their children are not too difficult to solve the problem as long as they understand the root cause of their children's crying. The most important thing is that parents must "be prepared to fight" . The most common "horrible" cry is probably in the toy store, that is, desperately asking parents to buy their favorite toy! Do you already have something similar at home? Price is not right? The style is too old to be updated and a new model will be launched soon? ...I don't care, I want this! From time to time, there will be scenes of lying on the ground, rolling, and crying, pushing the parents to the corner all of a sudden, which is extremely embarrassing. If the parent is irritated and yells at it, it usually doesn't work because it's already within the child's "budget", and even then you'll end up embarrassed and give in. Parents can try to squat down calmly and say to the child with a smile, "Oh? Are you going to cry? Then you should cry first, and we will buy it when you are done crying." This is beyond the child's "budget": crying is not as effective as you think! The child may gradually stop crying and discuss it with the parents. In reality, many children may not be so "good" and continue to cry until their parents "give in". At this time, parents must remember to keep calm and still smile and say to their children: "Oh, it seems that you can't stop for a while, I'll sit there and wait for you. If you don't cry, we'll be fine. Discuss what to buy?" The child cried, and to put it bluntly, it was to fight for the initiative. It is very likely that the parents had relocated one or more times before, and then the child felt that this trick was useful and kept copying it. To change this situation, we must start from the source. There are two details that parents need to pay attention to. One is to make an appointment with your child before going to the toy store. This kind of agreement is not the parent's imperative to ask the child to agree, but it is really negotiated with the child. Parents can patiently provide their children with information such as "what to buy?", "how much?", "one time or several times? Can I buy it every time I go? Or can't I buy it next time?" Options, guided thinking, and finally "let the child decide what to buy and how much" (in fact, this decision is of course the parent's approval, otherwise the parent can ask the child to change the proposal by constantly prompting "see if there is a better choice"). The agreement to "buy toys" is reached in the discussions with the children, and the habit of thinking about problems is also cultivated. The second is that parents should deliberately cultivate the character of their children to keep their promises, and to do what is promised, both parents and children should do the same. This is obviously not only useful in dealing with "buying toys", but also in many, many occasions. It can not only reduce a lot of disturbances once and for all, but also help children's future growth. When our son first entered the toy store, like most children, he wanted this and that in front of the dazzling array of toys, and he also wanted to overthrow the original agreement. We patiently waited for him to have enough trouble and asked him: "If you overturn our original agreement now, then I can overturn the agreement to come to the toy store in two weeks, and it will take a long, long time before you can come to the toy store. Do you think it's better for everyone to overturn the original agreement? Or should we all continue to abide by the original agreement?" Of course he wasn't stupid. Later, when we went to the toy store again, it was much easier. He went straight to find the toy he liked, bought it and took us out of the store to play! (Tip: There are more professional and practical parenting knowledge in the "Collections", pay attention to this account to receive the latest information)
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