How to make the child not tired in the future? It is not enough to study well, it is necessary to cultivate two aspects of ability

time:2022-10-07 07:56:39source:monlittlebaby.com author:Baby care
How to make the child not tired in the future? It is not enough to study well, it is necessary to cultivate two aspects of ability

I often hear parents say this: it doesn't matter if we are tired now, as long as our children are not tired in the future. However, I hope that the child will not be tired in the future, not to do too much for the child now, to let the child read well, and to obtain a higher education in the future can be guaranteed. Numerous facts have proved that children must develop in an all-round way and have all kinds of abilities in order to live a comfortable and happy life in the future. There are two aspects that are neglected by many parents, and children who lack the ability in these two aspects may grow up tired or miserable. These two aspects of ability, one is the ability to resist setbacks; the other is the ability to work. The society is changeable, and there is no certain ability to resist setbacks. It is possible to lie down at any time, and the life of lying down cannot be described by the word "suffering". Today's children are not short of anything they can say, food, clothing, housing, and transportation. Several adults surround and serve, living a life like a "little emperor". "Shun" is the characteristic of children in this era, but because it is too "shun", children can't stand talking and scolding. Coupled with the development of society and the improvement of self-consciousness, the former "stick education" has been severely criticized, and almost all children are treasures in the palm of their parents' hands. "Thin-skinned", "glass-hearted", there are all kinds of performances. There was a teacher who cried out in distress: what happened to the children now? I can't stand any criticism at all. How should I educate them... Some teachers are careful with their students, for fear that the tone of voice is too heavy and the language is too "fire", which will hurt the children. Some students turned around and jumped off the building because they could not accept the teacher's criticism; some students asked their parents to intervene because they felt that they should not be criticized, resulting in the teacher being dealt with. It's not that the child shouldn't protest, but I hope the child's ability to bear can be stronger. The society is complex, and no one can be "cared for" all his life. Parenting expert Li Meijin once put forward this view: Let children develop the habit of "cheeky" from an early age, so that they will not be too tired in the future. "Cheky" is actually a kind of anti-frustration ability. If you make a mistake, you can say to yourself: "I will correct it next time." Then accept, review and express your position with the cheek. Because of the embarrassment caused by ignorance, you can comfort yourself: "There are still a lot of people who don't understand, I'll just go to learn later." Then he smiled cheekily and said sorry. If you are rejected unexpectedly, you can tell yourself: "There is still a chance in the future", or "I will think of other ways", or even "It's not a blessing to know that it is not a blessing", etc., and then say "it's okay" with a cheeky smile. The reason why I have to be cheeky is because everything that happens is "face tearing", and I always feel uncomfortable in my heart. If the skin can be thicker, wouldn't it be too painful to tear the face off? "Cheky-skinned" is not an absolute derogatory sense, nor is it a short-term meaning of unwillingness to change and rogue. Being "cheeky" is a kind of anti-frustration ability. With this ability, you can stand firm in the tide of the times, instead of lying down in front of a small storm, and then dare not stand up again, or even retreat. Go to the corner of inferiority complex and hide yourself forever. When children have the "cheeky" habit, they are often more open to failures and setbacks, and they are more daring to face difficulties and face challenges. People who are "cheeky" are generally more popular and more likeable. The "cheeky" people are often dominant in social life, and their lives are easier and more exciting. So how to cultivate children's "cheeky"? One is to help children overcome their fear of life and encourage them to express themselves in public. The second is to take children to get along with people more, so that children have the ability to communicate. The third is to let children understand that life is a process of continuous self-learning and self-improvement. They are not afraid of making mistakes, as long as they are wrong, they can be corrected. Fourth, cultivate and maintain children's self-confidence. Life is complicated, there is no certain hands-on ability, and independence is not strong enough, and life may be a piece of chicken feathers. If you have good academic performance and graduate from a prestigious university, you may not be able to live a good life. A friend's son attended a top ten university in the country and successfully found a job he wanted after graduating from the university. He also dated a girlfriend from the same prestigious school during his college days. After a year of work, a friend's son and his girlfriend got married. The friend thought that her son had completed a life-long event, and that she had embarked on a new starting point in her life, and she could live her own life. Unexpectedly, soon after the marriage, the daughter-in-law and son quarreled to the point of breaking up. The reason for the quarrel is that neither of them can do housework, and neither of them is willing to do housework. Specifically, who cleans the table, who replaces the lamp when it breaks, not to mention cooking, mopping the floor, etc. For a few months of marriage, they never cooked a meal at home because neither of them knew how. Bought dishwasher also becomes a kind of decoration. Fortunately, the mopping machine can be remotely controlled by a mobile phone, so the ground will not be so dirty. But there was a thick layer of ash on the table and the counter, and they ignored them and turned a blind eye. The reason for the fierce quarrel was that a friend's son was ill. He needed to eat liquid food and hoped that his wife would cook it, but his wife could not and was unwilling to learn. Originally, now that the Internet is developed, all platforms such as Xiaohongshu and Douyin can follow them. Besides, they are highly educated people, and there is nothing they can't learn. But they just don't accept it. In other words, their hands have no interest in moving anything other than computers and mobile phones, and they are very repulsive. Helpless, friends rushed to his son's house for mediation, and rented a house near their house to take care of their lives. When the friend was there, the son and his wife lived in peace. Once the friends leave, the young couple will not have a family, or they will have no peace at home. They still dare not have children, for fear that life will be even more messed up after the child is born. They have a good job, but not a good life. There are many such cases, and a new way of "gnawing the old" is in vogue. This kind of "gnawing on the old", gnawing on the old man's time, the old man's energy, as well as the old man's physical strength and the old man's health. And those who "gnaw the old" do not live easily, even if they are not physically tired, they are also tired. After all, nothing should be and is not normal. When children were young, many parents would educate their children: "Do your own thing by yourself", but with the tension of children's study, especially after putting academic performance first, parents are basically used to taking care of their children. My hands, apart from flipping books, writing, and using electronic products, will never do anything else. This year, the Ministry of Education released the "Labor Curriculum Standards for Compulsory Education", making it clear that the labor class will be an independent course for primary and secondary schools. The curriculum content of labor class is divided into three categories, namely daily labor, service labor, and productive labor. Through the establishment of labor classes, children's hands-on ability will undoubtedly be significantly improved. As a parent, at home, you must properly arrange the time and items for your child to do housework, including cleaning, tidying up the room, cooking, etc., according to the age characteristics of the child, so as to truly cultivate the child's labor awareness. After 20 years of research at Harvard University, it was found that the employment rate of children who love to do housework is 15 to 1 compared with children who do not love to do housework, the income of the former is 20% higher than that of the latter, and the marriage ratio of the former is higher. The latter is happier. Therefore, for the future of their children, parents must not neglect the cultivation of their children's housework ability. Author: A working mother of two children who waits for the wind to come. She holds a pen in her left hand and carries her baby in the right. She likes to read, write, and draw. She firmly believes that even if life is a piece of chicken feathers, she still has her own longing poems and distances in her heart. Follow me and continue to give you Provide more parenting dry goods. (The picture comes from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete it)
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