In these things, the more lazy the mother is, the smarter the child is

time:2022-10-07 04:08:20source:monlittlebaby.com author:Maternal-Child Nursing
In these things, the more lazy the mother is, the smarter the child is

In the past few years in the parenting circle, the most common thing I have heard is: Raising children is really tiring. When the baby was just born, the mother had to serve food, drink and Lazar every day. I originally thought that it would be better to be bigger, but once again I stepped into the road of no return to play with and set rules. How to do it? Bite your head and boil it down. How many mothers look forward to the stars and the moon every day, looking forward to when they can relax a little. "Well, it is conservatively estimated that we will have to wait until the child's college..." This "wise saying" came from the mouth of a best friend. When she said this, she was chasing the baby who was jumping up and down, while video chatting with me with a sad face. Eh... I looked at the DD who was tinkering with building blocks around me, but I felt that my leisure days would not be so far away. It's a matter of taking time away from your busy schedule. You can't wait. You have to learn to be lazy and enjoy it. When I first started raising a baby, I was often anxious, worried about this, worrying about that, taking care of this and taking care of that... It wasn't until later that I realized that I let go and became a "lazy mother". To tell you the truth, 8 years of experience as a lazy mother has indeed allowed me to taste the infinite benefits of "lazy education". When I got lazy, I found that the children had more opportunities to try hands-on, more and more independent thinking, and more and more intelligent. This shows that being a mother is lazy and good, but it can make the child better! Today, Mom C will tell you about the laziness I have stolen over the years. 1. Too lazy to move Have you ever heard the old saying: "Lazy mother raises diligent children." To this day, I am deeply touched by this sentence anyway. If you want to raise a child diligently, you have to be lazy when you are a mother, especially in terms of hands-on. But in real life, there are many mothers who wish they would not let their children do anything, and are willing to be "supergirls"! ● Baby wants to throw a garbage: don't touch it, it's everywhere! ● Baby wants to collect some clothes: You can't fold it, I'll come, I'll come! It is said that the child is still young, how can he not take care of it. No, children can do it. Besides, if you don't cultivate it when you are young, it will be too late when you are older. So, let the children do the little things that they can do in their daily life. As mothers, we have to learn to be lazy by showing weakness appropriately. For example, after going to the supermarket to buy, take out a small bag to the child: "This is too heavy, would you like to help my mother carry a small bag?" Nine times out of ten, the child does not mind extending a small hand to help. And after helping you do it, they will feel that I have helped an adult, and the sense of accomplishment will be particularly strong. Don't think that the child is too young to be able to do anything, especially if there are boys at home, you should be willing to use it. Isn't there such a saying? The child who pets the big is the pet, and the child who uses the big is the character! I understand that many mothers want to do everything well, but the less mothers do, the more opportunities for children to participate. Many things, they can only be impressed by their personal experience, and gradually become more hands-on and become independent. A mother who is too lazy to move is probably followed by a diligent baby. 2. Too lazy to care Not long ago, I took DD to a friend's house as a guest. While eating, I watched her 1-year-old baby with my own eyes, and skillfully picked up the cutlery and put the meal into my mouth. How much shocked me. Later, when I asked, it really was my friend's "lazy" contribution. As a "lazy mother", she can write many articles about her thoughts on being too lazy to take care of her children. When the baby just had the ability to eat independently, she gave the baby full authority to eat and refused to interfere. Although there will inevitably be situations where meals are scattered everywhere and eating very slowly, they will not do these things on behalf of children. In her words, it is: "I would rather clean up for 3 months than feed for 3 years!" Indeed, as long as the child has the ability to eat, we should let him eat on his own. The reason why some children are still being fed when they are 2 or 3 years old is that almost all parents can't get enough of it. After all, you won't eat if you don't feed him. As parents, we always think: No matter what, we can't let our children go hungry! So it's up to the child. From the beginning of feeding, to chasing feeding, back and forth, and finally had to take care of this and that. Heh, in fact, from the very beginning, this was just cheating. Most children are able to pick up food and deliver it to their mouths at 7 or 8 months, and become proficient at using spoons and then forks and chopsticks at 1.5 to 2 years old. Therefore, mothers should have a bigger heart and don't "extend their hands too long". The food is fed for him, the clothes and shoes are put on for him, and everything is taken care of for him, so the baby will naturally stop thinking about trying to do something on his own. I still remember that the kindergarten head before CC shared with me: the children who are the easiest to adapt to kindergarten have the ability to take care of themselves! These children can easily accomplish some of the things they need to do on their own in kindergarten. For example: after going to the toilet, you can lift your trousers and wash your hands by yourself; when you take a lunch break, you can put on your own clothes; after using the painting tools, you can put them back in their original places... The child feels that he can do everything by himself, and he does not face the wall or pressure, so he will naturally not contradict the kindergarten. , and teachers will like these children. You see, at home, children can "open their mouths with food, and stretch out their hands with clothes", anyway, it's up to you to finish, what about after going out? Regardless of whether it is self-care ability or hands-on ability, for children, it cannot be cultivated overnight. So, let's try to control the heart that wants to interfere too much. If he eats dirty, let's clean it up; if he wears it backwards, let's correct it... Only if you are too lazy to take care of it, the child will have the opportunity to do things independently. This will exercise the child's brain development, coordination ability, and many fine movements, as well as exercise the child's concentration. The autonomy of our two children was cultivated when I was too lazy to manage. I saved my energy, and the child's autonomy has become stronger, killing two birds with one stone. 3. Too lazy to think about whether there are any mothers like me who like to call their children? What I'm talking about here is to use the children, not to squeeze the children's labor, but to use the children's brains. In the book "Mother's Teachings Changed My Life", there is a saying: How happy is a child's childhood if there is a "lazy mother". Only when parents are lazy can children be diligent, develop themselves better, and find their own way. "When I saw this sentence for the first time, I shared it with Dad C. As expected, I immediately received a spit from him, "Isn't it just you?" A lot of painstaking effort. Every time I am with my children, I may find an opportunity to "play stupid" at any time. For example, when building blocks, I suddenly don't know where to put the next piece; the number enlightenment game does not know what the next number is. La... Even if I know the answer, I will humbly ask the child for advice, let him understand and then teach me. If the child doesn't understand it after a while, it's okay, it's a big deal to ponder with him. Oh, what can mother have? What about bad thoughts? Just try to find opportunities to let the children use their brains. Just last night, when I was building building blocks with DD, I did the same trick. I built a house-shaped building block with DD, and it cost a dozen pieces. , I encountered a "difficulty" and asked him with the blueprint: "Where is this piece, do you know? "CC heard it and came over to take a look. In the end, the small house was completed under the command of her sister and brother. I really didn't want to think about the original intention. The effect is also obvious. Now, my two children are taking care of themselves. Ability, independence, including the ability to deal with problems, are gradually increasing. We have to admit that in fact, only "lazy mothers" can cultivate smart children. Mother C said that whenever someone asked me: "You How do children develop independence? "I always carry out my lazy education and teach people to be a "lazy mother". The "lazy mother" I say is not lazy in the real sense, but "lazy in body and mind". In short Instead, they try to lure children to participate in hands-on, thinking and decision-making. Over time and more times, children will naturally become more independent and smarter. CD parents: "Chinese parents learning plan" is implemented The author, Dad C - Master of China Medical University, doctor of the top three hospitals; Mom C - the editor-in-chief of parenting of the newspaper, the author of "Parents with good temper can have good education". Raising CC&DD siblings, public welfare and popularizing infant feeding, sleep, disease, and psychological knowledge , let more parents join the big team of scientific parenting, avoid detours together, and be "good parents in China" together! The original public account "CD Parents" (ID: cdbama)
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