The baby understands everything and doesn't say anything? Parents may ignore these 3 points, which is the most important thing to do

time:2022-12-02 14:22:19source:monlittlebaby.com author:Emergency treatment
The baby understands everything and doesn't say anything? Parents may ignore these 3 points, which is the most important thing to do

CD Mom CD Mom All mothers are most worried about the problem of delayed growth and development of their children. In addition to the obvious difference in length, the other is to speak. After all, at the stage of language development, whoever child speaks, whoever speaks fluently, just listen to it. Every time this kind of topic is involved, it can become a hot spot for mothers in minutes. Everyone knows that 0-3 years old is a key stage of language development, and even related to the intellectual development of children. Alas~ The more important things are, the easier it is to cause trouble. One of the easiest situations to make parents anxious is: the baby obviously understands the words, but doesn't speak. In the popular variety show "Dad's Home" that I watched recently, there was a child named Xiaobao, which was almost the case. Parents can understand all instructions, and can express their needs with various gestures, but they do not speak. Xiaobao's parents were also very worried about the developmental delay, and took him to the hospital for related examinations. Seeing this, some mothers may be "not calm": our family is also like this, do you want to check? Don't worry, don't worry! Not all children who don't speak have language delays. The most important thing is how to judge. Part.1 The standard of normal or delayed language development In my opinion, each child's language development rhythm is different. Among children's abilities, the individual differences in language development are the most prominent. This makes it difficult for us to easily judge whether a child is stunted through an abnormality at a certain stage. If mothers are really worried, look at the milestones of their child's language development. By referring to the standard of normal or delayed language development given by the American Academy of Pediatrics, the child's developmental progress can be judged. If children have these signs of language delay, we need to pay attention. Of course, this can only be used as a reference. If you feel that your child's language development is abnormal, it is definitely the most reliable to consult a doctor. Part.2 The reasons and methods of language developmental delay may be puzzled by many mothers. Why is the child's language development delayed? In fact, this can be found in our daily life. Many times, we just think about caring for our children, but we often ignore these points: 01 Do you always "understand" your children's thoughts? When all mothers face the problem of children's language developmental delay, they need to reflect first: Are there opportunities for children to speak from an early age? The child is listening to sounds from all directions from birth, and these are all "inputs" to him. But language development, just "input" is not enough, there must be "output". Talking has never been done overnight. Ask yourself, do you often let your children talk? I've seen too many moms "fancy thoughtful" about their kids. A child's eyes, an action, a tone of speech... hey! You will understand, just go to help the child do it, and in the end, the child often does not say a word and enjoys it. We used to say that "knowing the child and the mother" is a tacit understanding, but in fact, this makes the child lose the opportunity to speak. Children at the most appropriate age for language development will stare at you all day long without saying a word to each other. If you can't accumulate enough vocabulary, and you can't develop the habit of speaking, it's not surprising that language development is delayed. So, don't feel that as long as you satisfy the child as soon as possible all the time, it is good for him. At times like this, being a mother just needs to play dumb appropriately. Even if you have the ability to understand the child's demands, you should wait for the child to speak. At the same time, if what the child is saying is not clear or unambiguous, you can respond with an "ah?" or "what." Let's pretend we don't understand and let the child speak again. Of course, if the child is in a hurry and hasn't made it clear, we can just guess what he wants to say and repeat it several times to guide him. After all, his imitation ability should not be underestimated. Such communication again and again will continuously activate the child's desire to speak. Over time, language development will naturally get better and better. 02 Do you always feed your children too refined food? We all know that children's language development is affected by many factors. What I have to mention is the development of facial muscles, which is a factor that mothers often overlook. At a time when precision feeding was popular in the parenting circle, I don’t know how many mothers were obsessed with feeding their children soft and fluffy things. The child is 2 or 3 years old, and every time he eats soft glutinous porridge and stewed meat... Either because he is afraid that the child will not be able to bite, or he is afraid that the child will not digest it. We've talked about the side effects of intensive feeding many times, and delayed language development is one of them. Because if the child eats all kinds of fine and soft things in the mouth, it doesn't take much effort to chew, and it won't last long before swallowing smoothly. In this way, the child's facial muscles and even the mouth are not exercised. You know, we need to mobilize the mandible, lips, tongue, soft palate, pharynx, etc. to cooperate in order to complete the action of fluent speech. If the coordination is not in place, it is inevitable that it will affect the speech. Reluctance to speak, slurred speech, these phenomena of language development delay may occur. Therefore, the normal development of children's language is absolutely inseparable from a balanced diet. We must adjust the properties of the child's food in time, and exercise his chewing ability according to developmental needs. When feeding children, don’t stick to soft things, and provide some hard things appropriately, which is more conducive to children’s exercise of facial muscles and oral cavity during the process of chewing. In the future, when the child speaks, it will be more accurate and smooth. 03 Do you always do various things on behalf of your children? In order for a child's language development to be normal, it is inseparable from the accumulation of vocabulary. Where does the child's vocabulary come from? Most of it is his daily experience, including what he hears, sees, feels, and thinks about... For example: children know what "hard" and "soft" mean after they have touched cookies and cakes . This means that children need to go through different experiences in person to enrich their inner language. If we always do all kinds of things on behalf of children, it will make children's vocabulary accumulation very uneven. For example: every time I take DD downstairs to play, he likes to play the little slide in the garden. Since the first time, with my encouragement, I successfully entered the team of children who were playing at that time. Since then, I have been able to play with them by myself every time, and I have also mastered a series of vocabulary such as "together", "you first", "it's me" and so on. . This is the result of the child's personal experience. If I asked and communicated for him at the beginning, how could the child speak? If we look closely, we will find that children with more experience are more talkative, and the more talkative children are, the richer their vocabulary is. So, let's not do anything for the child because we are worried about the child's injury. For children, every experience of movement, touch, feeling, hearing, etc., is a learning process. Children will learn all kinds of information from it, and then enrich their inner language, laying the foundation for future oral language. *C’s mother said that every time she encounters a mother with a baby who doesn’t like to talk, she can see her anxiety at a glance. Think about it too, who sees their own baby "cherishing words like gold", while other baby's mouth is "Bara" non-stop. Can't help but be in a hurry? What's more, if the baby is really delayed in language development. Not to mention that comforting a guilty and self-blaming mother is not easy. Intervening and guiding the child is even more time-consuming, troublesome, and labor-intensive. I just took this opportunity to talk about the experience accumulated in raising two children, I hope it will be useful. Regarding the child's language development, don't be in a hurry!
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