"I raise your child, who raises my child" the 25-year-old daughter's question left her parents speechless

time:2023-02-02 08:44:58source:monlittlebaby.com author:Make one's mouth water
"I raise your child, who raises my child" the 25-year-old daughter's question left her parents speechless

Wen | Cheats With the full opening of the second child in 2016, and now the opening of the third child, young people are indifferent to this, saying that they have no desire to have more children. On the contrary, the elderly couples who are about to give birth to the last train are interested, especially when they open their second child, many women in their 40s have big stomachs, and some of them have their own children when they should have grandchildren When the baby went out, outsiders did not know whether it was her grandmother or her mother, which caused a lot of embarrassment. Compared with these, the impact on the eldest eldest is what cannot be ignored when an elderly couple has a second child. A relative of mine wanted to have a second child because of her advanced age, but her eldest daughter strongly opposed her. When my relative was young, because of work, he could only have one daughter. Later, when the second child was opened, the eldest daughter had just given birth to a child at the age of 25, and the couple wanted to have another child. When the eldest daughter found out, she came to the door and asked her mother: "Mom. You are 46 this year, and my dad is 48. You have another child. With the conditions of our family, how will you support it at that time? If something happens to the two of you, what will happen to the child? The relative blurted out: "Isn't there a sister like you? You can't help but support your younger brother." The daughter asked in a temperamental tone: "I raise my younger brother, who raises my daughter?" The husband and wife were speechless. to right. Of course, it didn't come into being in the end, because the husband and wife's bodies wouldn't allow it.

The ideas of husband and wife represent the ideas of many parents of second-born children at an advanced age, and the boss supports them

Do not deny that many families The reason why elderly couples with ordinary conditions dare to pursue a second child and a third child is because the boss supports them. They thought that as long as the child was born, the eldest would have to help, and if they fell ill or had an accident, the eldest would have the responsibility to take care of the younger siblings. Even if the boss himself is reluctant, if it really reaches that stage, the worldly discussion and moral requirements have to let the boss carry the burden, so some elderly couples will only start from themselves, in order to satisfy some of their own desires, insist on having a second child. Three tires. It has to be said that this kind of couple is extremely selfish. They not only drag down the life of the eldest, but also may make the life of the second child jump into a fire pit. Many couples choose to have a second child at the age when the eldest is about to get married and start a family. The most likely impact is the eldest’s marriage. I have the eldest son by my side who is about to get married, and the mother is pregnant with a second child and insists on giving birth, and the woman simply doesn’t want it. When you think about it, not only will you get married without the help of your in-laws, but you might even have to take care of your in-laws and future brother-in-law or sister-in-law. Such a life is a huge pit. Those parents with average family conditions who give birth to a second child at an advanced age are, to be honest, a burden on the eldest. When the eldest needs the help of parents to go further, the parents have to focus all their energy on the younger. Without the help of his parents, the eldest eldest started slower than others, and he may have to take on responsibilities that do not belong to him in the future, and his life will be more difficult than others. Having a child in old age is a good thing for parents, but not necessarily for children. There is too much age difference between parents and children. Parents will be unable to educate and raise their children. Especially when children are in school, parents often need parents to participate in various parent-child activities. Older parents are not as energetic as young parents. Children have low self-esteem. To make matters worse, if the parents die in the middle, then the child is likely to be left unsupported, which is fatal for the child's life. [Topic discussion: Are there any couples around you who have a second child at an advanced age? How is life now? 】Senior nursery teacher, psychological consultant. He understands parenting and psychology, and also pays attention to the mother's self-growth and family management, and strives to be a caring person for mothers. Welcome to [Parenting Cheats], you can find the answers here for everything you want to know about parenting care, growth and development, family education, and mental health!
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