Young mother-in-law became popular at daughter-in-law's wedding, netizens: It may also be the fuse of future conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

time:2022-12-02 author:Cry
Young mother-in-law became popular at daughter-in-law's wedding, netizens: It may also be the fuse of future conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

A live video of a wedding has become popular on the Internet, but the bride in a white wedding dress in the video is not the "protagonist". In the part of the wedding speech, the mother-in-law in red will become the focus of the audience. I saw that my mother-in-law looked young, and her curly hair in the middle showed her temperament. Her slender figure was very outstanding with a bright red dress. When the mother-in-law held the microphone and gave a speech, the guests under the stage responded enthusiastically, and everyone praised the mother-in-law for her youthfulness and temperament. After being praised by everyone, the mother-in-law was even more excited, and she became the most watched woman in the audience for a while. After the video was released, netizens also praised her mother-in-law, praising her as the youngest and most beautiful mother-in-law on the Internet. However, some sharp-eyed netizens found that when the mother-in-law was speaking, the daughter-in-law on the side was embarrassed and seemed to be stealing the limelight. Compared with the mother-in-law's unfinished intentions, the young daughter-in-law obviously wanted to end the speech of the elders quickly. She looked at her mother-in-law frequently, and her eyes were full of dissatisfaction and helplessness. Some netizens commented: "The mother-in-law is very good-looking, but on the wedding day, the best looking bride is the bride. I don't know if the mother-in-law's extraordinary dress has taken into account the embarrassment of the daughter-in-law." "At the wedding of the younger generation, the elders We should keep a low profile, this is not the time to steal the limelight! I feel that this will be a fuse for the discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the future." "It's obviously my own wedding, but I'm not the protagonist. It will be uncomfortable."

It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with, but in many cases it is because the mother-in-law likes to "steal the limelight"

In real life, there are not a few mothers-in-law who like to "steal the limelight". They have always regarded themselves as the backbone of the family and are used to controlling the whole family. After their son got married, they who did not quickly enter the role of mother-in-law still continued the style of the previous "head of the family", completely unaware that young daughters-in-law also need a certain right to speak and make decisions in the family. In order to highlight her status in the hearts of the whole family, the controlling mother-in-law can't help but want to intervene in the management of problems that the young couple can handle on their own. In the eyes of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law's housekeeping cannot be stronger than her own. The psychology of wanting to "press the daughter-in-law" makes the mother-in-law unknowingly regard the daughter-in-law as their "imaginary enemy", for fear that the daughter-in-law will shake their position in the position in the mind of the son. She likes to steal the limelight is actually a "proactive attack" by her mother-in-law. She hopes to gain the respect and recognition of her daughter-in-law, and also wants to use this to confirm her family status. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have no experience of living together, so as elders, they are more urgent to establish family authority.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should have a sense of proportion when getting along What you need to have is "a sense of separation", even if you live under the same roof with the young couple. The so-called "family awareness" refers to the fact that after the son is married, the daughter-in-law has the "right to manage" the small family, and although the mother-in-law is still the mother of her son, she should control her own hands and not easily. Involved in the operation and management of Xiaojia. In the final analysis, getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a matter of grasping the sense of proportion. If the mother-in-law's management crosses the line, it will inevitably make the daughter-in-law feel disrespected. Being respected and recognized are two very important emotional feedbacks in the interaction between two generations. It is naturally difficult for a daughter-in-law who is not respected and recognized by her mother-in-law to give back to each other with the same emotion. After all, family relationships without blood connection can easily breed misunderstandings and differences.

If you want a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, a smart mother-in-law will try her best to do a good job of these points

1. The "small family" must know how to "delegate power" to the daughter-in-law After the identity is confirmed, the mother-in-law should take a step back in time, respect the independence of the family, and delegate power as much as possible. The conflict between the two generations is often caused by the elders wanting to manage too much, and only providing help when the younger generation needs help. This is the smartest way for the elders to get along. Put away your own desire for control, this is the first change that a mother-in-law needs to make. 2. Be more considerate of the younger generation with the wisdom of the elders. The younger generation's experience in dealing with life is naturally not as good as that of the elders, but this does not mean that the younger generation cannot handle the situation in life well. For a mother-in-law, being more tolerant and considerate to her daughter-in-law is far easier to be accepted than attacking and ridiculing. It is far easier to deal with her daughter-in-law with her own wisdom in dealing with the world than to treat each other as an imaginary enemy. Significant. 3. Deal with misunderstandings and disagreements with high EQ. When there are misunderstandings and disagreements between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, dealing with low EQ will deepen the estrangement between the two, while dealing with high EQ will strengthen the relationship between the two understand. As a family, conflicts and differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are inevitable. A good way to deal with them can make each other familiar with each other's principles and bottom lines, and better grasp the boundaries for future common life. In the life of a son and a daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law should not have more influence than the daughter-in-law. If the mother-in-law can recover the psychological state and psychological needs of being a daughter-in-law, then I believe they will know how to keep a low profile and how to withdraw their love of pointing fingers. hand. Conclusion: "Comparing heart to heart" is the secret to getting along well with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The attitude of relying on the old and selling the old will not help to establish parental authority. Equal treatment and peaceful coexistence are the key points to ensure a harmonious and stable relationship among family members. A smart mother-in-law will not "steal the limelight" in her daughter-in-law's life. (The picture in this article comes from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete it)
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