2-year-old baby is afraid of birth is a social disorder? All you need to do is this

time:2022-11-27 04:57:30source:monlittlebaby.com author:Common phenomenon
2-year-old baby is afraid of birth is a social disorder? All you need to do is this

The time for the return of the "Sacred Beast" is getting closer and closer. Most parents say that they can finally take a break, but some parents are silently distressed because their children do not fit well and have social barriers. No, there is a private letter from Bao's mother, her baby is over 2 years old, but she is seriously afraid of life, and told me some of the recent performances of taking the child out to play: on weekends, the mother took her daughter (Ran Ran) to the children's entertainment center. Play, they arrived late, and there were already many children gathered there. Many of the children did not know each other, but due to their similar age, they quickly became familiar with each other, chatting and playing games together. Mother put Ranran down and said, "Would you like to play with the children? Mother is waiting for you here." However, she grabbed her mother's clothes and shook her head repeatedly and said, "No." Mother saw the children playing with eagles In the game of catching the chick, I pushed Ranran away and said, "Look how happy everyone is, you can go too, and pull the last child's clothes." Who knows, Ranran burst into tears and hugged her mother's Leg said, "I don't want to be here, I want to go home, my mother will hug me!" After my inquiry, I learned that Ranran had followed her grandma since she was a child. Grandma spoke little and didn't like to take her out, so she turned on the TV for Ranran every day. Let her watch it, and gradually she got used to watching TV at home, and it took a day to watch it. At first, the mother thought that it was because the child was well-behaved and obedient, and did not think much about it. Until Ran Ran went to kindergarten, the teacher told her that Ran Ran was not gregarious. When other children got together to play, Ran Ran always hid in the corner and played by herself. The teacher said that from various manifestations, it may be that he has suffered from social phobia in children. Mom started to be anxious, and she couldn't believe it. She thought that the child was just a little introverted, so why was it related to social phobia? Generally speaking, most babies will show brief withdrawals in unfamiliar situations or unexpected situations. However, it usually adapts gradually with the changes of time and environment, and actively develops its ability to adapt to the environment in activities such as games. But if this behavior is not corrected in time, it is easy to develop into social sensitivity, or even "social phobia". So what is a social disorder? Children's social phobia is a common childhood emotional disorder, which is manifested as: excessive shyness and embarrassment in interpersonal communication, excessive attention to one's own behavior, psychological pain when entering an unfamiliar environment, and even physical discomfort, accompanied by crying Noisy, withdrawn, silent, etc. Is Childhood Social Phobia Just Introversion? In life, some children dare not take the initiative to say hello to others, and feel nervous when they come to a new environment. This phenomenon is very common, so parents do not take it to heart, thinking that it is normal for children to be shy when they are young, and when they grow up Naturally. Is it really as simple as shyness and introversion that children are not good at socializing? Many children with "social barriers" do not want to integrate into the group, but they gradually lose themselves because they don't know how to do it. At the same time, children who cry among their peers are also prone to be excluded and ridiculed, which will make children feel humiliated, powerless and angry; children with social phobia are often considered to be "difficult to communicate" and "poor cooperation ability" "Can't integrate into the group", encounter many difficulties in learning and life, and long-term anxiety will seriously affect the child's physical and mental health. When they are in such social situations, they slowly lose the confidence and courage to interact with people. Reasons for children's social phobia There are actually many reasons for children with social barriers: 1. Psychological trauma: If the child has been beaten, scolded, ridiculed in public, this unpleasant experience will cause psychological trauma to him, some inner sensitivity, Children with low self-esteem will avoid crowds because of this, and are afraid of encountering unpleasant experiences again; 2. Parents do not like to communicate. Some parents do not like to go out, do not like to communicate, and seldom take their children out to communicate with others, which will inhibit the children's desire to socialize, and the children 3. Environmental factors Many parents leave their children to the elderly or nanny to take care of them because they are busy with work. Although the children's clothing, food and daily life are well taken care of, some elderly people are not active enough and their lifestyles are relatively quiet. The nanny does not spend a lot of time and energy communicating and playing with the children, so the children cannot learn to be active, bold and enthusiastic. Interpersonal communication Ways; 4. Doting parents Some parents dote on their children too much, protect them too strictly, and are not allowed to visit the streets. Because the child has lost the opportunity to communicate with others for a long time, he seems very timid, and he has an unnatural attitude when seeing strangers, and he will not take the initiative to find children to play with. Some only children, due to the doting of their parents, develop a willful, domineering and selfish character, and cannot get along with children; 5. For personal reasons, children are overly addicted to the virtual world of the Internet, or they have established a small world of their own, and gradually Lost the ability to socialize with people. So as a parent, how can we better guide and help children break social barriers in life? 1. Look for key issues Parents should find out the key to why their children are not social, is it because they don’t know how to treat people with different personalities and temperaments around them? Is it because they don’t know how to make themselves more comfortable? ... After finding the cause, we can better "prescribe the right medicine" to help children develop social skills. 2. Accompany children to communicate and play more Parents should be happy and energetic in front of their children, try to treat their children as friends, chat and play with their children more, and don’t lie down and play with mobile phones when they come back from work, so that the children will only be the same Learning samples, you can only pass the time by playing mobile phones or watching TV. My big pig's hoof is usually very busy with work, but as long as she has time, she will accompany her children wholeheartedly; and in the process of playing with her children, she also teaches her children how to communicate with others and trains her children's expression skills. 3. Pay attention to the sense of security Establishing a sense of security in an unfamiliar environment requires the company of the baby's most secure family members. Mom and Dad can act as the "leader" of the child, and accompany the child to integrate easily and happily! For example, in the friend we mentioned at the beginning, when the child was afraid to go forward to play with his friends at the beginning, the mother could actually introduce the child to other children first, and after she had a brief initial relationship , and then let the children integrate, it may be much better. 4. Create an environment for making friends. Parents can take their children to visit the homes of neighbors, colleagues and friends more often, and they can often invite other children to visit their homes to create a friendship environment for their children. But be careful not to force your child to interact with others, and ensure that the environment is free and relaxed, so that the child will slowly adapt and accept. 5. Encourage children to participate in various sports activities. Sports is a group activity that directly contacts and competes with people. It always makes sense if more than two people participate. More importantly, physical activity requires not only intelligence and strength, but also guts. This courage is an essential element of interpersonal communication. Encouraging children to regularly participate in various sports activities is not only conducive to improving children's physical quality, cultivating interest, but also improving communication skills. Today I will share so many questions about "social phobia" for the time being. It is said that the best love that parents can give their children is to help them establish "psychological well-being" in childhood, which is a power that is rooted in the heart and continuously creates happiness and happiness. It will make children confident, courageous, optimistic, and able to respond positively no matter what environment they are in. Although children with social barriers will bring a lot of inconvenience, parents should not be too anxious. Especially for babies who are naturally sensitive, don’t push them out in a hurry and don’t criticize them. Give them enough security, patience and support; as long as they find the right way, I believe they can say hi to strangers easily and happily. , it's only a matter of time!
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