Introverted children, parents pay attention from 3 points, and can also cultivate "social masters"

time:2022-11-27 04:02:45source:monlittlebaby.com author:Diet
Introverted children, parents pay attention from 3 points, and can also cultivate "social masters"

The famous psychologist Carl Jung said: "There is no pure introvert in the world, or a pure extrovert." No matter whether the child's personality is extroverted or introverted, there is no difference between good and bad. But when we see an introverted child, we still subconsciously think: "What's the matter with this child? Is it too introverted? Children will be labeled rude, shy, withdrawn, etc. But in fact, there are successful people, regardless of their introverted or extroverted personality. Also, there are many famous people who are introverts. Despite this, parents still believe that children with extroverted personalities will be much better than introverted children. They will work and live well in the future. They are good at sociability and will be more promising in the future. Therefore, it will force those children who are more introverted to be "extroverted". In my life, I will also meet such children. They are timid when they meet people, they will not say hello, and when they encounter toys, they only know how to play by themselves and will not cooperate with others. Behind such a child is a parent who is "not very social". Their own words and deeds are exactly the same as children's, but they are adults, and they are more likely to cover up and deal with it. Comparatively speaking, it is difficult for us to see. Nie An is not very talkative, even after having a child. She describes her personality as "quiet", the kind of person who doesn't know how to say hello when she meets people, just nods and smiles. Acquaintances are better. When meeting someone who is not very familiar at a party, sometimes they blush directly to the base of their ears, and then take the opportunity to walk away. Like her, her daughter Wanwan is not very social, and she doesn't like to play with children. She usually plays with toys quietly and can play for more than an hour. Nie An said that the child will go to kindergarten soon, and she is really worried that she will not adapt to the collective life in the kindergarten. In my opinion, there is no need to worry so much. My children used to be reticent and introverted children, but after entering kindergarten, they changed a lot and became more and more cheerful. At that time, I brought my own baby and was busy with work. To be honest, my energy was limited. Sometimes I would throw a toy for my baby, and he would play for a while. I don't have time to take him out to play, so I go to the supermarket to buy once a week, which is considered to let the baby out. Later, when the child reached the age of kindergarten, I sent it directly. A week later, I found that the children were talking more and more. They often told me about kindergarten, who wore red shoes, who didn’t like vegetables when they were eating, who was the most naughty when they took naps, and who didn’t listen to the teacher when they did activities in the afternoon. Command and so on. Once I went to pick up the child, I found a group of children around him, and when I got closer, I realized that these children were listening to his stories, and those stories were what I usually told him at night. Now being told to other children by him vividly, it looks a lot like that. Later, the children went to middle school and senior class very smoothly. Usually, they still don’t like to talk at home (like me), but when they got to kindergarten, they were happy. Every year, the comments of kindergarten teachers say: "Unite with classmates, love to share, and love to help others." You see, children will be changed in what kind of environment. When I told Nie An about this, she breathed a sigh of relief, as if she was less worried about her daughter. Then I gave her three suggestions. I hope she can pay attention to it when she brings her baby in the future. Maybe it will help her daughter's introversion (I'm not saying that introversion is bad). Focus 1: There is nothing wrong with correctly understanding oneself introverted and extroverted. Just like the toys that children like, they also have their own characteristics, and so are each character. Therefore, I advise Nie An not to frequently say words such as "introverted, timid, shy" in front of her daughter, and not to reinforce it. Her daughter's character is introverted. Focus 2: While learning more knowledge to enrich the spiritual world, it can also make children more confident. Just like my children, being able to tell stories among a group of children benefits from their usual learning. In addition, we will perform magic tricks and do scientific experiments at home. He will also tell these to the kindergarten children, and he has also gained a large number of "fans"! Once we went to the Science and Technology Museum together, he saw those interesting scientific phenomena and pulled me to tell him over and over again. Speaking of going back to kindergarten, he wants to tell his good friends! Focus 3: Participate in more gatherings for children of the same age. The American Journal of Psychology pointed out that partners are very important to the development of children's social skills. In the community and in the school group, there are children's playmates of the same age. They can meet after school or play together on weekends, so that children can have more contact with children of the same age, and they have a lot of common language. Just like my child, he used to be very reluctant to talk, but he had a good friend who would chirp and talk non-stop when he saw him. Every time the two meet, they will talk a lot, and even if it is time for dinner, the two will chat for a few more minutes. When a child has such a good friend, his emotions and expressive desires will be motivated. Even if he doesn't like to talk at ordinary times, having such a friend to accompany him will make the child very interested in social interaction. Conclusion: Introversion or extroversion, there is no good or bad, but as a parent, I think everyone hopes that their children can be more popular. After all, when you go to society in the future, you still have to use it frequently. However, I also thought that if my baby doesn't like to socialize, I will do a good job of scientific enlightenment, maybe it will be useful in the laboratory in the future. 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