There are three types of children who are "fake smart". Parents must pay attention to identifying them and see if there are any children in your family.

time:2022-12-09 10:25:03source:monlittlebaby.com author:Maternal-Child Nursing
There are three types of children who are "fake smart". Parents must pay attention to identifying them and see if there are any children in your family.

Chen Jining, the former president of Tsinghua University, once expressed a view: "The children of some colleges and universities, and even the children of key colleges, cannot be regarded as 'really smart', nor can they meet the needs of the current society for talents." , Many students specialize in reading books and get full marks in exams, but their studies are useless; and some students, although their grades are not very ideal, can stand out in the society and learn something useful. In fact, such children will show some performance when they are young. Whether most of the people in the crowd will be able to achieve great things in the future has a harbinger in their growth when they were young. As the saying goes: "You are young at three years old, and old at seven years old." This is the truth. Therefore, these three types of children are "fake smart", and parents must pay attention to identifying them. Children who talk about soldiers on paper, only talk and do not do. Some children are articulate, articulate, and reason. Compared with children who do not like to talk, they have many advantages and can face many things calmly. However, if a person talks rhetorically, but does not actually apply it, it will be difficult to achieve great things after all. In life, hard work and sweat are the shortcuts to success. If people disagree, they are doomed to miss many opportunities for success, and such people are only on paper. Think of a child who speaks the truth and understands the truth. But after graduating from junior high school, many children go to high school or work. But this child is ignorant, idle at home all day, aimless life. Mom and Dad are watching and worrying about it, because this will affect his future, even the fate of his life. However, they tried all the methods to no avail. Later, a teacher who watched the child grow up told the parents why the child was so self-sacrificing. The teacher said that the child was too vain and not pragmatic. He himself likes a quality life, but when he works hard for life, he is tired and dirty. Therefore, thinking and actual behavior are seriously derailed, resulting in this child only talking about soldiers and having no strength. After listening to the teacher's persuasion, the child's mother and father conducted psychological counseling and thinking education for the child, found a place for the child to learn crafts, and strived for the child's independence. Three years later, with the unremitting efforts of the child and his parents and the help of his relatives, the child has really become independent. He opened a cell phone shop. And the business is still very prosperous. Every time I go home, I bring gifts to my mother and father. It's very different from the lazy self I used to be. become wiser. Parents should first be pragmatic in educating their children, and let their children live with a realistic attitude. In this way, the child will move forward steadily on the road of life, step by step. In this way, not only will his life be stable, but it will also leave a good impression on people. If he only relies on lip service and does not seek truth from facts, his future is also a mirage, and he cannot stand up to a little wind and rain. After more than ten years, twenty years later, he will not have great prospects, and he will not be as talented as his parents thought. Children with weak hearts can't stand the wind and rain. Adler said: "Happy people are healed by childhood, but unfortunate people are healed by childhood." The reason why people feel inferior is mostly caused by the shadow of childhood. of. In "The Last Day of Jasmine", Jasmine's character is very weak, for example: she won the first place in the exam, her mother would say that if I hadn't forced you to study, you could still get such good grades in the exam; My mother said, "Cry, you cry well; sometimes you do something wrong, and your mother will say you have no brains..." Hearing her mother say these words, she would not refute, but was aggrieved and sad, This made her very pessimistic and disappointed in life. At the age of 16, she couldn't bear the grievances of life and committed suicide by jumping off a building... A child with a weak heart, lacked the soil to cultivate self-confidence in growing up, and was timid when encountering things, and it was difficult to support a piece of the sky in her life. Therefore, parents should train their children well when they are young, so that they have a firm psychological quality to fight storms. Only in this way will children be able to win their own place in the battlefield full of competition. If parents ignore this point, the child will be weak and have low self-esteem, and it will be difficult for him to be alone in society. Because their psychological quality is not strong and their thinking pattern is small, many things cannot be considered. There is a line like this in "Mirror": "Every child is born with a blank sheet of paper, and the parents are the ones who paint. The key to how the blank sheet becomes is the parents." Therefore, most children with strong hearts, most The heart is positive and there is sunshine; and most of those children with weak hearts are unhappy and difficult to achieve great things. Children who can't concentrate, play and don't study. In life, we always hear words like this: "This child is really smart, but he is too lazy. He doesn't do homework or study. He knows how to play with his mobile phone all day, so his grades Don't go." In order to make this mythical beast a bit more promising, his parents spent all their salaries to hire him the best tutor, and ran all over the street to choose the best cram school for him. But it doesn't work at all, because he is interested in everything, just doesn't care about learning. No matter how his parents beat him, how he scolds him, or how he speaks great truths, he just doesn't make progress. At home and abroad, relevant teaching research shows that for the vast majority of students, only 20% of their academic performance is related to intellectual factors, and the other 80% are non-intellectual factors. And attention is a big factor. The reason may be related to the environment, or the child's nervous system is immature. However, no matter what, congenital or acquired, it is already a fact that children are also inattentive. The focus of parents is not on the cause of the matter, but on how to change the current situation of the child. Therefore, parents need to help their children become more focused and let their children grow up healthily. 1. It is important to create a comfortable growth environment for children. For example, family members live in harmony, the home environment is very clean, and children should not be disturbed when they are studying... 2. Let children sleep for more than 8 hours, go to bed early and get up early every day, Develop a good habit of reading books. 3. In terms of diet, give children a reasonable diet, mix meat and vegetables, do not let children develop picky eaters, and achieve nutritional balance for children through dietary fiber supplementation. 4. If the child has the pressure of study or the pressure of classmate relationship, let the child release it. Communicate with children more and get into their hearts... Therefore, if children are not concentrating, they must be provided with a comfortable space for teaching, books, and entertainment. Stay away from aggressive words, stay away from aggressive stimuli... The key to a child's guidance lies in the parental guidance "The Common Thing and the Genius". There is this sentence: "Every child has the potential to become an excellent person, and it is the parents' daily routine. Education gives children a different life." When children have the above three kinds of "false intelligence", parents must pay enough attention. Because you are the first teacher in your child's life, your daily behavioral norms seriously affect your child's behavior, and they will instinctively learn from you and inherit you. First-class parents know how to use excellent written educational role models, the correct way to put their children back on the right track, and let their children take the right path in life. As Leo Tolstoy said: "All education, or nine hundred and ninety-nine thousandths of education, boils down to example, to the correctness and perfection of parents' own lives." Author: wait for the wind to come A working mother of two children, holding a pen in the left hand and carrying a baby in the right . (The picture comes from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete it)
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