Half of the students in China are pretending to work hard. Children have these 3 signs, parents should pay attention

time:2022-11-27 06:06:25source:monlittlebaby.com author:Sneeze
Half of the students in China are pretending to work hard. Children have these 3 signs, parents should pay attention

Author: The main creative team, Mu Qingye, was laughing crazy by a video on the Internet. A father sees his child reading too hard and wants to give the child a break. When he got closer, he saw that the child was gone. Spreading out the book and reading seriously is a pile of clothes in the shape of a human. As for the child who "studied hard", he didn't know where to hide. It turns out that not only adults can "touch fish", but children can also, and they are better than blue. There is a saying: "In China, 80% of students are pretending to work hard." If you look closely, there are many children around us who are actually "fake learning" and "fake effort": they seem to be learning, and they are learning very well. Seriously, it is actually "fishing in troubled waters" and "pretending to work hard". There is a term called "low level of diligence", which refers to students who put in the same amount of time as other children, but have a large gap in learning results. Time is fair and results don't lie. Children who "fake hard work" end up learning, but they can't have enough fun, they can't learn well, and they get nothing in the end. There is a saying: "'Fake effort' is more terrible than no effort." Without effort, parents can still supervise; but if it is "fake effort", children will go from accustomed to passive learning to really regard learning as "complete the task", Eventually fell into a state of numbness. If you want to know whether the child is "fake effort", it depends on whether he has these three characteristics. "Swallow the jujube whole" study The characteristics of the "swallow the jujube whole" style of learning: only study without practice - not thoroughly digesting the knowledge that has been learned. After teaching for many years, one of the students that worries me the most is the "too hardworking" student. In class, I listened more seriously than anyone else, my notebook was full of copies, and the wrong questions were densely packed. But a test will be revealed. Usually count him the most serious, but his test scores never go up. In fact, the reason is very simple: these children seem to have "collected" a lot of knowledge, but they haven't absorbed a single point of knowledge. When it comes to the real golden moment of the exam, can't you be blinded? Parents of such children must not be confused. Once they find out, they should immediately prescribe the right medicine: 1. Use the Feynman study method to deepen the understanding of knowledge "The Feynman study method - this is how I was admitted to Tsinghua University". The book talks about: "There is no resumption of learning, just swallowing the dates whole." A scholar said that he was able to enter Peking University by counterattack. One of the reasons is that his mother often used the "Feynman study method" and asked her to tell her what she had learned. , to help her grasp the knowledge more thoroughly. This Feynman learning method can be simplified into four words: Concept (concept), Teach (teach others), Review (review, evaluation), Simplify (simplify). A simple understanding is: when a child learns a new knowledge point, if he wants to use concise language to explain it clearly to others, then he needs to first figure out what the new knowledge point is about. What does it actually mean? And when these are completely clarified, the child can tell this knowledge point to others again, and he can review the knowledge point again, and thoroughly consolidate it and internalize it into the child's knowledge system. 2. Get the result feedback in time and know where the blind spot is. In the live broadcast room, Dong Yuhui once shared a "three no-ask" method of how to judge whether a student is "fake learning": Do you want to know what the child needs to memorize? Don't ask, just dictate it directly; want to know if the child understands what the teacher is saying? Don't ask, just let the child give an example; want to know if the child has mastered the learning content? Don't ask, just do the papers. Timely detection, speak with objective data. The biggest advantage of this method is that it can not only know the child's mastery of the content in time, but also find out where the child's problem is, so that it can be targeted to check for omissions and fill in the gaps. "Cracking the bell" learning The characteristics of "Cracking the bell" learning: It looks like you are learning, but you are not really focused - the learning efficiency is very low. I have a student who is the slowest every time he does his homework. Write for a while, stop for a while, be in a daze for a while, scratch your hands for a while... In short, there will always be "chores" that can't be done. It seems that I spent a long time studying, but I didn't focus on my studies at all, and I spent the last time with no effect at all. From the point of view of Educational Psychology, the root cause of inattentiveness is that as they get older, most children see things in a pessimistic and negative light. Inefficiency is a lack of self-confidence that makes one weak. When a child encounters any situation where he needs to prove himself, he will avoid it and choose to escape. It is not that the children are not focused, the root cause is their lack of self-confidence in learning. Therefore, for such children, parents can do the following: 1. Establish clear and reasonable goals. According to "The Psychology of Motivation", one of the conditions for a person to produce "flow" is to have clear and reasonable goals. "Flow" is used in learning, and also refers to a state of learning that allows children to fully concentrate. When the goal is set too high and the child cannot reach it, they will feel frustrated, and if the goal is set too low, they will feel boring. If you want your child to enter a focused state of flow, when setting goals for your child, they should be neither high nor low, and proceed from the actual situation. 2. Timely positive feedback to stimulate self-discipline in learning. As parents, we sometimes have to admit that learning, for most children, is indeed a very boring thing. Therefore, it is necessary to stimulate children's interest in learning from the inside. For example, try letting your child see the results of their learning at short intervals as they study. Just as brain scientists have concluded in research: "Continuous positive feedback can stimulate strong action." Let children experience the sense of achievement of "paying and reaps" in time, and they will be willing to continue to work hard. The characteristics of "passing and passing" learning "passing and passing" learning: I have been wandering in the comfort zone - I have not made progress to accompany my daughter to take online classes during the summer vacation. Originally, she has assigned learning tasks every day, and she can study according to the progress. As a result, just before school started, I found that my daughter has been repeating the courses she has mastered, and she has not listened to any of the following content, and she will not know if she asks. When a child is in such a "fear of difficulty" situation, don't rush to accuse the child of not being enterprising, but from another angle, first find out if there is any problem in the parent's education method. For example, are the expectations of children usually too high? Or when children encounter failures and setbacks, they beat and scold more often? "Child Psychology" puts forward: "Children have the characteristics of pursuing excellence. If a child indulges in the past, that is to say he wants to avoid the future and future-related problems." In the process of seeking progress, I was afraid of failure, so I simply chose to stay put. Such children can try the following solutions: 1. Together with the child, set small goals together on the edge of his comfort zone. Such children who are easy to "fear of difficulties" will withdraw from too great challenges. Parents can be patient and communicate with their children more, find out their most comfortable learning rhythm, and then set learning goals with their children according to this rhythm. Anxiety can't solve a problem, and you can move forward steadily if you don't rush. 2. Providing reasonable interventions to help parents to their children should be an appropriate cooperation. For example, parents can step in and help when a child is clearly having difficulty learning. But when the child can do well on his own, parents can withdraw properly, only encouraging, only affirming, and not interfering. Song Shaowei, an expert on adolescent learning psychology, once said in his book "Notes on Learning Therapy": "Children will inevitably encounter some difficult barriers on the way of learning. This is both a challenge and an opportunity." Want to help children overcome these barriers, Parents can't be hands-off shopkeepers. There is a saying in "Educational Psychology": Family education and school education complement each other to better prepare children for future development.
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