Babies enter kindergarten for the first time, and their emotions need a buffer period. Parents find a way to be more effective than rushing

time:2023-02-07 author:Make one's mouth water
Babies enter kindergarten for the first time, and their emotions need a buffer period. Parents find a way to be more effective than rushing

The picture comes from the Internet These few days, when Xiaobao is sent to kindergarten every morning, I always hear a number of crying loud ensembles. At different distances on both sides of the gate of the kindergarten, groups of parents and babies in groups of three or five are crying, coaxing, making a fuss, and making noise; coupled with the same body movements: the baby is desperately pouting Crying and rubbing back on her little butt, parents sweating profusely and dragging them forward... It's really lively. This seems to be a must-have show for every kindergarten season, with children and parents co-starring. The picture comes from the Internet After the baby enters the kindergarten for 1-2 weeks, the most common situation is that the child enters the kindergarten crying and leaves the kindergarten with a smile. Seeing that the child is in a good mood, the parent asks, "Baby, do you like kindergarten?" The baby happily answers: "Yes!" The parent sees a ray of light in his heart: "Is the kindergarten fun?" The baby nodded repeatedly: "Fun!" The parent Pursue after victory: "Do you still want to go to kindergarten tomorrow?" The baby is firm and decisive: "No!" The picture comes from the Internet. In fact, children entering kindergarten do need a buffer period for their emotions. At this stage, it can already be said that "the dawn is emerging", and it is not far from "victory". Parents must persevere! After all, crying is the only way children have to do at this age; as a parent, it is necessary to find a venting point for the child's emotions in time, and at the same time find the most suitable way for the baby to help him adapt to kindergarten as soon as possible. The picture comes from the reasons why children on the Internet are reluctant to go to kindergarten. There are no more than two aspects:

1. Separation anxiety

Long story short, separation anxiety really isn't just a child's cause. As a parent, first think about whether you have any of these aspects: at the gate of the kindergarten, when the baby hysterically dragged his mother to cry, the mother also burst into tears, saying that the baby was going to kindergarten, while hugging tightly With the child... With the help of the teacher, after the child entered the kindergarten, the mother first lingered at the entrance of the kindergarten, and did not think about tea and dinner. After all, she couldn't help calling the teacher and sending messages, trying to find out how the child's entry into the kindergarten was. ; If there is a kindergarten that can be monitored and synchronized, then the parent’s monitoring terminal has not been turned off, and they can watch the baby anytime, anywhere... After the child comes back from the kindergarten, there is a little emotional problem, and the parents immediately rise to the height of tension and anxiety, ask The teacher does not trust the teacher, afraid that the child will be wronged, afraid that the child will not be able to express his grievance, afraid that the child will not dare to speak when he is in need, afraid that the child will be bullied and left unattended... The picture comes from the Internet. If you extricate yourself, then it is not the child but the parent who falls into separation anxiety; at the same time, separation anxiety is brought to the child. Parents' anxiety is directly transmitted to their children through their own micro-expressions, through body language, and through casual speech and behavior. When the parents look reluctant and sad, the child will feel double the sadness. The pictures are from the Internet, so the change should start with the parents themselves:
  • When sending their children to kindergarten every morning, parents should control their emotions and encourage their children to be full of enthusiasm for entering kindergarten. Hope and longing;
  • When picking up children every day, you can try to take your children to play at the public amusement facilities near the kindergarten, so that you can meet more children , with a friend's kindergarten, it is naturally cute;
  • Every night before going to bed, talk to the child about what happened in the kindergarten, you can let the child talk, and the parents are the audience That’s fine; if parents want to know some kindergarten situations through communication, the main thing is “what interesting stories did the teacher tell, what fun games did they play with the children”, etc.; don’t have negative speculations “whether the teacher is fierce or not, Did you quarrel with you? Did you beat the child? Did someone bully you?"
Help the child recall the joys in the kindergarten more so that he can better accept the kindergarten. The picture comes from the Internet

2. Fear in the heart

The child's psychology is simple and simple, complex and complicated. For example, little boys like to watch some fighting or detective films such as Ultraman and Conan, but when they come out of the lively film and television environment, they will suddenly feel fear, what if there are monsters? Does Ultraman exist? ...specifically to the environment of kindergarten:
  • Some children have poor language skills and have not learned how to get along with others, resulting in no friends and loneliness, which makes kindergarten difficult for them. Fear;
  • Some children have poor self-care ability, and they need to do things by themselves after entering the kindergarten, such as going to the toilet, eating, dressing, taking naps, etc. On weekdays, there are special people The daily habit of taking care is changed to be done by yourself. If you do not master daily living skills in advance, children will naturally feel fear; They didn’t get praise from teachers in time, so they were frustrated; some children felt sad because of disputes with children (kindergarten is also a small river and lake)… So they began to reject kindergartens and began to fear the daily admission time. .
The picture comes from the network situation and then solves the problem. To be honest, the effect is definitely not better than planning for a rainy day, but if you can't adjust it in time and let it develop, the child's adaptation to the kindergarten will get worse and worse. Therefore, before the baby goes to kindergarten, adjust the child's work and rest, give the child enough space to have his own social behavior, and do his own things by himself, etc., the baby will be easier to enter the kindergarten. If it is not done in advance, then from now on, the requirements for the children who have just entered the kindergarten need not be too strict, give them a relatively relaxed environment, but gently and firmly refuse any excuse for them not to go to the kindergarten. For children entering kindergarten, it is also a way to show affection and reason, and add some extra small gifts to arouse children's interest enough to enter kindergarten. In your spare time, take your children to places where there are relatively many children, and let them feel, adapt, and develop their communication skills. The picture comes from the Internet. Some children have strong adaptability, and some children have weak adaptability. No matter what the children are, as long as the parents use the proper methods, they can effectively help the children, shorten the time and process of adapting to kindergarten, and let the children enter the kindergarten happily. happy life!
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