Reflection after the second childbirth丨A mother who does not give up self-growth can raise a better child

time:2023-02-03 14:37:43source:monlittlebaby.com author:Fever
Reflection after the second childbirth丨A mother who does not give up self-growth can raise a better child

I found that many friends are quite interested in my postpartum life! It has been more than 2 months since Xiao Ningning, and apart from the 42 days I lived in the confinement center, it has been a while since I officially returned home. I won’t talk about the part about the confinement center, so let’s talk with you today about my daily life and insights after returning home. Let’s talk about the personnel first. Like the first child, it is still the main force for me and my mother-in-law, but the difference is that my mother-in-law and I have become more calm and calm. When the first child started to hold Yuanyuan, I was terrified, and I had to ask my mother-in-law for help when changing the diapers. Now, because of the improvement in the practical ability of the first child and the reading of a lot of books during the parenting process of the first child, I am now dealing with it. Slip a lot. My mother-in-law is very reassuring and boasting about me, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is naturally a lot more harmonious, hahaha. Talking about the daily life, in the morning, my mother-in-law sent Yuanyuan to the kindergarten and went to the market to buy vegetables, so this time in the morning was my alone time with Ning Ning. Because when Dabao woke up in the morning, he would go to kindergarten in a hurry. The dishes and bottles at home were not washed, and the quilt was not folded. She still wanted someone to hug and accompany her when she opened up. At that time, when she faced the first day, she was very annoying, anxious, and she didn't even have a good mood to face the baby. But when the baby goes to bed at noon, after eating and reflecting, the baby wakes up with no one to accompany him, the housework cannot be done with all his heart, and he is in a bad mood, so it is better to concentrate on doing one thing to accompany the baby. So after Xiao Ningning woke up the next day, I arranged various parent-child activities, playing children's songs, doing touch, practice turning over and looking up, and taking pictures. Damn, let her sleep and interact with her. . Xiao Ningning is also very happy, and a smile is healing for me. My mother-in-law came back to cook lunch. After lunch, I started to clean up everywhere, so as to avoid sitting on the stomach after dinner and finish the housework efficiently. Next, the whole afternoon is my own time. In addition to breastfeeding, I will rest for half an hour, and then start my own blogger job. At this stage, I am actually sharing my life and outputting dry goods. I think about some common problems of newborns and organize them into scripted shooting. I read the comments of fans and reply to the computer. When you are tired, read a book, slowly find your previous work status, and realize your self-worth. In the evening, when my boss picks up Dabao Yuanyuan home, I will start to bring Yuanyuan to check in every day. Every day I set about 5 small goals for Yuanyuan, building blocks, coloring, reading picture books, doing handicrafts, etc. There is no absolute evaluation system for these goals, mainly to let children develop self-discipline and love of learning. One of his habit, and also that he can't ignore the time to spend with Dabao because he is small. I am very satisfied with the status quo, being able to accompany my children and achieve self-growth. Many mothers may stay away from books, study, and self-growth after finishing school. Work, family, and children take up all of the mother's time, leaving them overwhelmed and unable to take care of their own growth. In fact, after the second child, I will be busier than before, but I found that instead of watching some series, I read more books and cover a wider range of levels. For young children, I read parenting books and learn new things, which may be overlooked during the first child. Some problems have been fixed at this time, and it is also more able to grasp a law of children's growth. To tell the truth, Xiao Ningning can be said to be an angel baby. It is really much easier to carry. My mother-in-law always said, "As long as Our method is right, and the child will not cry non-stop all day long.” This is what I brought out, a positive feedback that acts on the child after self-growth; You can see from everyone's praise for Yuanyuan. This is also a lot of experience gained from the book. Before the second child was born, I was worried about the relationship between the two children in the second child family. Dabao would reject Erbao. I bought a picture book about the second child, how did the baby come to this world and paved the way for pregnancy, and now it seems that Yuanyuan loves Xiao Ningning more than any of us, sings and dances for her, and learns from us adults There are many ways to take care of my sister. This made my second child's life more warm and joyful, and less fickle. In a sense, the child is the teacher of the parents. He came into this world to urge the parents to make up for the courses they had neglected in the past, and constantly improve their life map. A mother once sighed with me: I only understand the phrase "a child is an angel" now. If it wasn't for the difficulties in raising him, I would not have explored or deeply reflected on my growth process and thinking mode. Now, my life is opening up, and this is the change brought about by children. So when we feel stuck and overwhelmed, we might as well stop and see what's holding us back. When we no longer escape and face the problem bravely, it also means leaving the psychological comfort zone and entering a state of uncertainty. In this process, there will be suffering, confusion and anxiety, but as long as we keep thinking, we will eventually find a solution. Every living individual has the need for self-growth, and also has the law of self-growth. If you miss today's growth, you need to repay it in double tomorrow. The self-growth of mothers is not only related to the fulfillment of their own lives, but also to the growth of the children who are most closely related to them. A growing mother can more easily help children through every stage of growth. Today's sharing will come to an end here. I hope my insights can give you some thinking and positive energy. You are also welcome to leave a message to share your parenting stories with me!
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