Home is a psychological "safety island" for children

time:2022-09-27 05:57:01source:monlittlebaby.com author:Baby care
Home is a psychological "safety island" for children

Home is a psychological "safety island" for children. The parent-child relationship mainly affects children's emotions and emotional expression. Relevant studies have found that many mental illnesses and disorders in adults are related to the lack of love in childhood, especially the lack of love from mothers. If children don't get enough love from their parents, they may develop character defects and even develop personality or behavioral disorders. Psychologists believe that the relationship between mothers and children is dependent, and this dependence cannot be given and replaced by any family other than the mother. This is because the child needs the support of the mother and the love of the mother, and the love from the mother can make the child feel full of security. This sense of security plays an important role in the development of children's self-awareness, self-confidence, self-esteem and other psychological qualities in the future. Ironsworth, an American psychologist, once conducted an experiment of the "unfamiliar situation" method: he measured the mode of mother-infant attachment by observing the infant's response and behavioral performance in a strange situation after a brief separation from the mother. Determine if the child feels safe. The experiment found that if the mother did not respond when she left and did not hug the child when she came back, the child would avoid the mother, and such a child had a weaker sense of security. And the kind of child who can quickly calm down and play after the mother comes back after hugging and kissing, is the child who has a healthy parent-child relationship and a sense of security. Home is a psychological "safety island" for children and a base for children to cultivate happiness. When a newborn baby is sucked by his mother in his arms, his small eyes are always looking at his mother. Children can run and jump carefreely around their mothers, hug their mothers tightly when they meet strangers, or hide behind their mothers quietly... All this shows that maternal love can make children feel safe, It allows children to explore and develop without worries, and allows children to grow up healthily. Kiki has received endless care and love from her parents since she was born. Unlike most mothers, Kiki's mother will express her love to her daughter without hesitation, telling her that her mother loves her. When she was two or three years old, Kiki seemed to be more curious and more adventurous than children her age. She can calmly fiddle with every item in the house, pick up leaves with her children, and squat next to the ant hole to watch the ants. She is much more courageous than girls of the same age, and she is very confident. In the kindergarten, she can take care of herself completely, and she does not need the teacher to take care of her too much. Sometimes she can help the teacher to take care of and comfort other children together. Qiqi's mother felt that the reason why her daughter was so "bold and careful" was precisely because she affirmed such a thing in her small heart - no matter what the circumstances, she would never lose the love of her parents, so she is safe. Loving children is the instinct of every mother. However, having love does not mean that children can feel happy, and having love does not mean that children can feel happiness in life. A mother's love can only make the child feel safe and happy if the child feels it. It's like a child who can calm down quickly and continue playing after his mother comes back and hugs and kisses.
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