Children who cry since childhood are worse than babies who don't cry? The older you get, the more obvious the gap becomes, and parents are surprised

time:2022-12-05 author:Make one's mouth water
Children who cry since childhood are worse than babies who don't cry? The older you get, the more obvious the gap becomes, and parents are surprised

Introduction: In the eyes of many parents, "crying" is a sign of not being strong enough, so in daily life, parents can often hear parents educating their children "not to cry", even if the little guy in front of them is still young, parents will be very worried. Strongly said the last sentence "Give me back the tears". From the parents' point of view, children who "cry" are not as strong as children who "don't cry", and children who "cry" will have little success when they grow up, so the truth is really what some parents think ? Is a "crying child" really inferior to a "non-cribing child"? In a certain variety show, Big S, who was in the mainland, called his family far away in Taiwan. During the period, there was an earthquake in Taiwan, so Big S was very concerned about the emotional state of the children. So on the phone, Big S gently asked the younger son, "Did you feel the earthquake at home?" After hearing that his mother cared about him, the younger son on the other end of the phone cried softly and said, "I'm afraid!" The son's reaction made Big S was very distressed, but Wang Xiaofei, who was with the child, was a little dissatisfied with her son's reaction. I only heard him teach his son, "You cry? You are a man, why should you cry in an earthquake?" Obviously, in Wang Xiaofei's eyes, a boy should be strong, and crying should not be done by a "man" . After hearing Wang Xiaofei reprimand the child, Big S was very angry, so she immediately stopped her husband severely on the phone. Then he quickly and patiently calmed his son's emotions, and during this period, he also offered a loving "magic kiss". In the end, the frightened child finally calmed down under the fancy comfort of his mother, and smiled again. After the program was broadcast, some netizens said with emotion: "Wang Xiaofei's reaction is a typical Chinese-style strict father reaction. They don't care what kind of mood swings the child is going through, as long as they don't cry!" "Who said that a man can't Crying? Sometimes crying is also an emotional outlet, and it’s not good to hold back when you are not happy.”

Children who love to cry since childhood really Wouldn't it be better for a child who doesn't like to cry? The truth is different from what you think

For innocent and straightforward children, the behavior of crying is a very good way to vent their negative emotions. Crying can make the emotional pressure accumulated in their hearts relieved in a short time. effective release. Although children who say "crying" are easily labeled as "cowardly" and "not strong enough" by adults, it has to be said that children who cry when they are young can release their emotions more effectively than children who do not cry. Pressure and get rid of the coercion of negative emotions, so when they encounter setbacks and difficulties, they are more resistant to setbacks after crying. Children who cry from childhood often have stronger "empathy" and "empathy ability", they are more likely to think about others in certain situations, and this also makes them more personal and attractive. In social interaction, people with empathy and empathy have higher emotional intelligence and are more likely to be favored and welcomed by their peers. Children who cry more are more likely to be accepted by the group than children who do not cry.

It is not wise for a parent to ask a child to "don't cry", nor is it a bad thing for a child to "cry for a while"

From a physiological point of view, a child's cry It is easy to stimulate emotional reactions of anxiety and anxiety in adults. Therefore, in daily life, many parents will instinctively want to stop after hearing the cry of their children. From an educational point of view, in the adult world, "crying" will be taken for granted as "not strong enough", so parents will paint "crying" and fragile "glass heart" when educating their children Equal sign, will preconceivedly ask the child to "don't cry". But in fact, the parents' coping method of "don't let children cry" is not reliable. For young children, it is indeed a bit difficult for young children to force them to digest negative emotions by themselves. At the same time, children who are asked to "don't cry" look stronger on the surface, but they are also more likely to develop personality traits of indifference, lack of love, and lack of security, and even lead to a series of psychological obstacles and psychological problems. Obviously, this is not conducive to their healthy mental development. When negative emotions invade, let the children "cry for a while", which will allow them to let go of their emotional burdens and restore their senses. If parents can't have the patience to "let the child cry for a while", then this is likely to make the child's psychological distance from the parent further and further.

Faced with crying children, how should parents properly guide them? Parents should stop forcing their children to "hold back"

1. It is not unforgivable to give children a tender emotional response to crying, and for emotional children, the reasons for crying are even more diverse. Therefore, when children break down and cry, parents need to give them gentle emotional feedback. Instead of asking children to "hold back", parents should try to give their children the confidence to dry their tears. Parents’ hugs will become a harbor for children’s emotional release, and parents’ comfort will give children the courage to face them. 2. Patiently listening to a child's inner needs Crying is a child's external emotional expression, and parents should pay more attention to their inner emotional needs when facing a crying child. Try to communicate with children more patiently and learn more about their inner thoughts. This will not only prevent children from being misunderstood, but also help parents find the key to understanding their children and clarifying their ideas for dealing with problems. 3. Cultivate the child's ability to cope bravely. If the problems that plague the child cannot be solved in time, the emotional release of crying will cure the symptoms but not the root cause. Therefore, when facing a crying child, parents should point out the correct direction for dealing with the problem when they are at a loss, pay attention to the cultivation of the child's ability to deal with problems, and teach the child to be strong from the "root". It is more educational than forcing children to "hold back". Parents don't have to overly magnify the negative impact of "crying" on their children, and correctly understand the way children's emotions are vented, which can help parents correctly guide their children and find appropriate ways to relieve their emotions. Crying children are not ignorant of being strong, and the emotional response that has been suppressed for a long time will eventually manifest in the child in a worse way. Conclusion: When parents educate their children, they should also pay attention to get rid of their own thinking and cognitive stereotypes, and look at their children's growth performance from an open perspective, which may have more educational value. Professor Li Meijin said that family education should focus on children's psychological education. It can be seen that it is not feasible to ignore the strong education method of children's mental health. (The picture in this article comes from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete it)
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