A kind of "invisible violence" is on the rise in kindergartens. It is difficult for parents to find out that children are suffering

time:2023-02-03 04:57:50source:monlittlebaby.com author:Baby bones
A kind of "invisible violence" is on the rise in kindergartens. It is difficult for parents to find out that children are suffering

Nowadays, many parents have realized the importance of basic parenting. In order to have a healthy growth space for their children, parents are really cautious when choosing a kindergarten, for fear that their children will encounter some unqualified teachers, which will delay their children's learning process. , or even a false impression of the campus. Therefore, in order to reassure parents, the management of some kindergartens is also more transparent, and a monitoring system has been added, so that parents can see the situation of their children through mobile phones anytime, anywhere. However, violence is not only an external form, but also "invisible violence".

There is a kind of "invisible violence" quietly emerging in kindergarten

I went to my cousin's house to deliver things during the break, but I accidentally discovered The younger nephew didn't go to kindergarten, and the cousin said, "I'm going to transfer him to another kindergarten. I thought it was normal for a child to go to kindergarten and get upset. Who knows if you communicate with your son carefully, that's not the case at all." It turned out that the younger nephew There is a hidden feeling that I don’t like going to kindergarten. During an activity before, my nephew’s drawing paper was drawn by a child in another class, so he raised his hand to ask the teacher for help, but the teacher ignored him completely. In desperation, the nephew had to shout at the teacher, who would have thought that the teacher would indiscriminately reprimand the nephew: "Why do you have a problem? Look at other children, they are all quietly creating." I don't like going to kindergarten anymore.

Isolated children are like a desert island in their hearts

After children enter kindergarten, they get along with teachers and classmates every day. Time, more than their parents and family members, if the kindergarten education environment is good, children can grow up healthily, and their personality will develop more soundly. A research team from the University of Michigan in the United States has investigated the relationship between brain activity and actions in infants and young children and believes that the age of 3 is a critical period that affects children's future improvement and deterioration, and most children in this period are undergoing "basic education". However, if you are "isolated" by teachers and classmates in kindergarten, it will not only make the child feel tired of learning and hate going to kindergarten, but also affect the child's character, making the child become withdrawn, indifferent, and have social barriers, which is not conducive to a good personality. Formation. But the problem is that this kind of "isolated" situation is generally difficult for busy parents to find and say, and they will feel that this is a normal situation when they first enter the campus.

How does "invisible violence" come about?

Children's kindergarten is an important period of personality formation. Some "invisible violence" brought by teachers can easily affect children's psychology and easily form negative psychology, which is very unfavorable for future growth. However, due to the ability to express Limited, the children also have suffering words in their hearts. ●● Labeled as a "bad boy" by teachers Some teachers often rebuke their children indiscriminately, characterize their children according to a certain incident, and label their children as "bad children", regardless of whether the teacher was malicious at the time, This behavior can hurt a child's self-esteem. Children have a mentality of admiration for teachers, and the image of teachers in children's hearts is extremely positive. Therefore, evaluations from teachers can affect children even more. Once teachers rate themselves as "bad children", children will also fall into self-denial. . ●●Ignored intentionally or unintentionally, parents know that there are many children in a class in kindergarten, and teachers may not be able to take care of them. However, some teachers often ignore their children because of their lack of patience and responsibility. For children, a teacher is a person who can help when they need it, a person who can give them a sense of security in kindergarten, but if they are often neglected by the teacher, the child will become extremely helpless and insecure. ●●Being treated differently inexplicably "a bowl of water is level" is easy to say, but not every teacher can do it in practice. As a perceptual animal, people also have their own preferences when facing different people. , the balance in the heart of kindergarten teachers is not completely balanced. But in this way, the child is not wrong, but is treated differently by the teacher inexplicably, the child will feel that he is not good enough, so the teacher does not like him, and it is easy to fall into inferiority complex, feeling that he is nothing compared to others.

Parents need to cheer up when children show these behaviors

Whether children experience "invisible violence" in kindergarten In fact, there will be performance. Even if the child does not say it, parents should pay more attention to the child's behavior and cannot take it lightly. The famous psychologist Jane Nelson once pointed out in "Positive Discipline" that the child is sensitive, and when he feels the exclusion of the people around him, he will only feel a sense of escape and fear, and even he is unwilling to continue to communicate with teachers and parents. go down. If a child suddenly resists going to kindergarten and feels depressed every day after returning from kindergarten, then there must be some problems in kindergarten. Parents should communicate with their children in time to understand the specific reasons. When it comes to the teacher's ignoring and discriminatory treatment of children, parents must clearly state their position. If the situation is serious, they can transfer their children to schools, so that the children cannot continue to be harmed.
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