Is the process of choosing a school for a child choosing a "circle" for his future?

time:2023-02-03 13:48:06source:monlittlebaby.com author:Make one's mouth water
Is the process of choosing a school for a child choosing a "circle" for his future?

The picture is from the Internet. I still remember that there was a very good urban drama "Thirty Only" a few years ago. There is a clip saying that Gu Jia, a full-time mother, has a happy family and a small career. Forced to integrate into a circle that does not belong to him, even if he suffered grievances in the circle, he would never back down, just to make the child enter a high-end kindergarten in the community. Unexpectedly, what happened in the story is really happening around me now. The picture comes from a friend of mine on the Internet, Xiaohang, whose son should go to kindergarten this year. There is a public kindergarten near their home, but it is smaller in scale and has older facilities. It is small and warm. Almost all teachers recognize it and are serious and responsible for the children. The food in the garden is not exquisite, but it is still delicious. low. Not too far from their home, there is a branded private kindergarten with a large scale and well-equipped facilities. It is said to be a Sino-foreign joint venture. There is also a lot of publicity for admissions. There are many activities, such as parties, study tours, festivals, etc. No small investment, and the fee is not low. The picture comes from the Internet. According to Xiaohang's original expectation, it is to send the child to a private kindergarten, accept Chinese and Western culture from an early age, and then go to aristocratic bilingual primary schools and private middle schools, and finally send them directly abroad. However, due to the epidemic in the past two years, Mr. Xiaohang's business has been hit hard. The company that was originally a large scale has now been compressed to only a few original employees and shareholders who are struggling to support it, and it is precarious. Mortgage loans, car loans, and the life of brocade clothes and jade food, these days that were easily available in the past have now become a heavy mountain that weighs on Mr. Xiaohang, making him a little breathless. Therefore, Mr. Xiaohang suggested that the child should be sent to a public kindergarten first. After this period of economic recovery, it is not impossible for the child to transfer to the kindergarten when the pressure is reduced. Xiaohang categorically rejected this proposal and made a vehement request, even if it is to sell a house in the family, to give the child the best education and not let the child suffer a little grievance. The picture comes from the Internet. The couple did not reach a consensus, and they started a cold war first. Xiaohang came to me to complain, and kept saying that he was doing it for the good of the children. He believed that only in such kindergartens can there be a good enough circle, so that children will have a different life experience from childhood. In fact, I don't quite understand where Xiaohang's reasoning comes from, and I can't agree. Who said that high fees, seemingly frequent activities, and the banner of Sino-foreign joint ventures can be considered an excellent kindergarten? Who can guarantee that an excellent kindergarten will bring out all excellent children? There must be a high-end circle, and can accompany the child for a lifetime? The picture comes from the ability of online parents to send their children to a place where they think they are better, but if they force their children to a place that is not within their reach for the sake of temporary face or the so-called circle, I really don’t see it. Must be a good thing! Because a "circle" is a group of people who have the same hobbies, interests, or are linked together for a specific purpose. Each circle has a different core for each circle, including those who are like-minded and rejecting those who have nothing to do with them. This kind of inclusion and exclusion, to be honest, is mostly related to the family's concept and economy. For example, I have a friend, his circle is mostly a group of people who play golf, and he often invites friends to fly to a certain place to play a few games and then disband. If there is no such economic strength, and there is no time and freedom, where can there be a "just go" itinerary? The pictures come from the Internet. For children, their kindergarten and school life are not a small society and small rivers and lakes? They have their own circle of people who play well, and some who they reject. However, this small circle formed spontaneously has no direct economic relationship, but is closely related to the children's achievements. For example, there are indeed many small groups in the school, all based on the premise of "spontaneity", but the "level of achievement" occupies a very important position. For example, children with good grades and children with poor grades rarely intersect ( Don't be fooled by the beyond-life fictions in movies and TV). Parents want to create a better learning and growth space for their children and pay attention to a circle. even be excluded. Pictures come from good education on the Internet, and should include good schools, good teachers, good partners and good families. These have their own merits in the growth of children, and they all occupy a very important proportion. When children are young, they still don't understand the warmth and coldness of the adult world. They will use their own preferences to make friends they like, without much utility or purpose. At this time, it is very important for parents to guide their children. According to the children's preferences, arouse the children's interest, and encourage the children to meet like-minded partners, help each other, and grow together. This is the real meaning of the circle. As for the circle chosen because of the family's economic conditions, that is the circle of the parents, not the child's real interest! The pictures are from the Internet. Therefore, it is very important for children to choose a circle that suits them, and to know real friends and real partners from an early age. What are the criteria for "fit"? To sum up, those that meet the actual conditions of the family, the personality of the child, and the direction of the child's growth are suitable! You don't have to blindly chase and integrate into a circle that is not suitable for you. That is a choice that wastes time and emotion, and the loss outweighs the gain!
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