The baby is usually brought by the grandmother. What should I do if I don't kiss my mother?

time:2022-10-02 03:41:30source:monlittlebaby.com author:Maternal-Child Nursing
The baby is usually brought by the grandmother. What should I do if I don't kiss my mother?

Introduction: In many families, the current way of giving birth to children is often to let the grandmother take care of the child after the mother gives birth, so that it is convenient for the mother to return to work and ensure the family's economic income. Many friends around the editor are like this. After the basic baby is three months old or half a year old, mothers will consider returning to the workplace. As a result, many mothers will also find a problem: after going to work, the baby is usually brought by the grandmother, and as the baby grows, he begins to gradually stop kissing the mother. In the face of emotionally estranged babies, many mothers are actually not feeling well, so what should mothers do? How should working mothers balance the relationship between work and children? Here, we focus on understanding the establishment of the baby's "attachment relationship", the so-called attachment relationship is a strong emotional and physical bond established between the baby and the caregiver. Because babies usually do not have enough autonomous behavior and autonomous survival ability, it is easy to form strong attachments to their caregivers. The baby's attachment relationship establishment will be divided into four processes: indifferent cognition, fixed cognition formation, explicit relationship establishment and bidirectional relationship establishment. Among them, the most critical is to establish a clear relationship at this stage, that is, 6 to 18 months, especially 6 to 8 months, this is the key time for the baby to establish a clear attachment relationship with the caregiver. Many mothers stay with their babies until they are six months old, but they leave for work when the baby starts to establish a clear relationship. After a period of anxiety and anxiety, the baby will turn to the new care of grandma. and quickly established a clear attachment relationship, which is why the baby does not kiss the mother. Because in the baby's cognition, the grandmother is the one who can take better care of himself and meet more needs, so the child will feel familiar with the grandmother and form a clear attachment preference. And the mother who has been diluted in the baby's life will become more and more strange and become an "ordinary person" in life. However, there is an innate blood intimacy between the baby and the mother. Even if we cannot accompany the child all day, we can re-establish a healthy and close parent-child relationship through daily interaction and contact. Here, the key lies in high-quality and effective interaction and companionship. For this, mothers need to pay attention to the following issues: 1. Babies who have a fixed interaction time after half a year can already respond to fixed and regular interactions. Events generate certain memories and cognitions, so the key point for mothers to establish a parent-child relationship is to have a fixed interaction time. For example, the time off work after dinner and before going to bed does not have to be very long, but it must be a regular interaction time, so that the baby can have a clearer sense of familiarity and awareness of the mother. 2. Respond to the baby's needs in a timely manner The so-called attachment preference is often a preference for satisfaction of needs, so mothers who want their baby to be close to us must know how to respond to the baby's needs in a timely manner at home. In this way, the baby will feel that you are a "reliable" person, and will develop a fixed sense of familiarity and attachment to the mother over time. 3. Play games with the baby High-quality companionship lies in giving the child a good experience and obtaining both actual needs and emotional satisfaction, and game interaction is the best way to enhance the emotion between the baby and the mother. Find time to play with your baby after get off work, and have various interactions with your baby in the game to make the baby happy, which can strengthen the emotional establishment between each other. Finally, the editor wants to emphasize that even if it is necessary for mothers to return to the workplace, they cannot ignore their care and care for their children because of this. Babies are actually easily satisfied individuals. The key lies in whether the mother can give the child enough high-quality companionship and wholehearted emotional investment in a limited time. Important note: Babies develop an attachment relationship with their caregivers as they grow, and the critical period for relationship building is between 6 and 8 months. When the mother goes to work and is taken care of by the grandma, it is easy for the baby to form an attachment preference to the grandma. For this, the mother needs to use high-quality companionship to re-establish a new and intimate parent-child relationship. Today's topic: Dear moms, what fun and interesting parent-child interactive games do you recommend? Welcome to the discussion.
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