Good baby ≠ high emotional intelligence, improving children’s self-awareness in three dimensions is the key to cultivating high emotional intelligence

time:2022-09-27 author:Baby care
Good baby ≠ high emotional intelligence, improving children’s self-awareness in three dimensions is the key to cultivating high emotional intelligence

Nowadays, parents have higher and higher requirements for their children. They not only hope that their children can have high IQ, but also hope that their children can have high EQ. In contrast, high emotional intelligence seems to be more important, because only children with high emotional intelligence can better handle interpersonal relationships and better integrate into society, so that children have more opportunities for development, and naturally they are more and more away from success. the closer. But what kind of child is a high emotional intelligence child? Many parents are wrong about this. Aunt Zhou said that Duoduo downstairs has a high emotional intelligence, and the key child is only three years old, and she will have a bright future in the future. When others asked why they thought Duoduo had a high EQ, Aunt Zhou said with certainty that because the child was good, she could do whatever her parents asked her to do, and she was very obedient. It's not like my grandson at all. Although he is 5 years old, his parents don't listen to what they say, which is really a headache. Obviously, Aunt Zhou equates a good child with a child with high emotional intelligence. This is obviously a logical error. A good child may be obedient and easy to follow, which can make parents and family less worry, but it is indeed impossible to draw the same sign with high emotional intelligence. If we are good at observation, we will find that there are many successful people around us. They are not obedient and good children, but children with self-awareness. If IQ is more innate, then emotional intelligence can be cultivated. The sooner parents can cultivate their children's emotional intelligence, the better. Don't think that the cultivation of children's various abilities is neglected at a young age, because if you miss the golden period of cultivating your children's emotional intelligence, it is tantamount to letting your children fall behind others at the starting line.

Five Stages of Cultivating Children's Emotional Intelligence

1. Although children in infancy do not have the ability to express themselves, they are aware of the outside world, so when parents When communicating verbally or physically with the child, the child can clearly feel it, which will lay the foundation for the child's emotional development in the future. 2. Infancy Children in infancy will enter the first rebellious period in their life. At this time, they begin to develop self-awareness, so they no longer obey their parents as before, and even rebel against their parents in their own way. At this time, parents should be as patient and gentle as possible to communicate with their children and actively guide their children to make correct behaviors. 3. In childhood, as children's self-awareness continues to increase, their needs will also increase, and they begin to tend to make more friends. At this time, parents should create as many opportunities for their children as possible to communicate with other children, because this will enrich the children's emotions and exercise their social skills. 4. Children in this period of adolescence begin to pay more attention to the sense of community, and they yearn to be able to integrate into the group, but in the process, children will gradually develop a sense of comparison. Parents should learn to accept and understand their children's feelings, because the emergence of a sense of comparison is a manifestation of children's beginning to care about the collective and self, but the expression is wrong. 5. The biggest characteristic of children entering puberty is rebelliousness. At this time, parents should try to become friends with their children, think more from the child's point of view, and never treat their children harshly, otherwise it will only lead to stronger and stronger children's rebellious psychology, leading to some extreme behaviors. Parents should not only learn to cultivate different emotional intelligence in children at different stages, but also pay attention to the improvement of children's self-awareness.

Three dimensions make it easy for children to have high emotional intelligence

1. Autonomous ability , parents can try to let them eat solid food by themselves. Of course most children want their parents to be able to feed themselves. But if you can let children grab food with their own hands, it can not only improve their interest in food, but also exercise their hands-on ability. In the process of the child's growth, let the child crawl, let the child walk, let the child experience the fun of hands-on. Let children do some things they can do, and of course, they can also guide them to participate in housework. While cultivating children's hands-on ability, they can also make children have a sense of responsibility and responsibility. 2. Self-evaluation ability Parents should guide their children to do three reflections a day, and reflect on their words and deeds that day, such as whether they said things that should not be said, did things they should not do, whether they hurt other children, etc.; reflect on the gains of the day, For example, is there any improvement in some aspects than yesterday; of course, don't forget to review the things of the day today, and make arrangements for the things tomorrow. Parents should guide their children to abide by social norms and public order through the power of words and deeds. Only in this way can the child become a person who speaks etiquette and understands the rules, and can become a truly excellent person. 3. Ability to control emotions. Parents should be good at discovering the advantages of their children, help them discover their hobbies and hobbies, give their children some affirmation and encouragement, let them know that they are excellent, and let them know that what they should say is not me. But I can. When a child has strong self-confidence, their emotional control ability can naturally improve. Of course, no matter how good children are, they will inevitably encounter negative emotions. At this time, parents must give their children positive energy, help them eliminate their inner fears and anxiety, and use their own happiness to infect their children, so that they can become a person who loves life. , face everything with optimism.
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