How old do children need to be to distinguish themselves as male and female? How to teach sex education to children during this period

time:2023-02-03 author:Maternal-Child Nursing
How old do children need to be to distinguish themselves as male and female? How to teach sex education to children during this period

According to expert statistics, minors account for 40% to 50% of the total number of abortions in the country each year. As for the way for minors to learn sexual knowledge, online search ranked first, with 52.7%, and parents ranked last, accounting for only 1.1%. Many parents always think that sex education is unnecessary, and they will understand when their children grow up! And these cognitions just hinder the popularization of children's sex education and bring certain harm to children!

1. Four major myths about sex education

Myth 1: Sex education is too early and useless. Never feel that sex education is too early, because bad people will not dislike you The kids are too young! For children, the younger they get the correct cognition, the more they understand their own body and feelings, and the stronger the self-protection awareness! Children at every age need to master different child sexual physiology knowledge! Misunderstanding 2: When the child is older, they will naturally understand that when the child asks questions about sex, many parents talk about sexual discoloration, are ashamed to talk about it, and avoid the question! And for children, the more you avoid it, the more curious the child becomes, and the more it drives them to find answers on their own. But because children can't distinguish between true and false information, it is easier to lose themselves. At this time, parents should take the initiative to take the responsibility of filtering sex education information. Misunderstanding 3: Children don’t ask me and I don’t answer. This is also a common problem of most parents. In fact, popularizing children’s science in appropriate scenarios will have good results! For example, when the child is taking a bath, it is a critical time for sex education, and you can take the initiative to talk to the child about the relevant organs. Guide children, know their own body, and establish self-protection awareness! Myth 4: The idea that sex education can only prevent sexual assault is wrong! Sex education can not only prevent sexual assault, but also teach children to cultivate correct life values. Now that the age of children having sex is getting earlier and earlier, it is necessary to popularize sex education for children in a timely manner, understand the possible consequences of sexual behavior, and do a good job of self-protection.

2. When should sex education begin?

In order to let children learn to protect themselves, the sooner sex education is popularized, the better. This is because children are innately curious about their bodies, and the more curious they are, the more likely they are to find ways to get in touch. Children begin to have a sense of gender distinction around the age of 2. Children at this stage will notice the difference between themselves and the opposite sex, and will wonder why my body is different from others. And this is a critical time to help children recognize their bodies and build gender awareness. At this time, the child does not think that gender is static. According to Kohlberg's theory of gender development, children go through roughly three stages, ultimately determining that gender remains the same throughout life.
  • The age of 2-3 is the stage of identification of the child's basic gender. The child can tell whether he is a boy or a girl, but his head may change;
  • Age 4-5, yes Gender stability stage, but still do not understand whether gender will change due to changes in appearance or choices, such as women who shaved their heads or women, men also grow long hair, etc.;
  • 6-7 years old , is the gender-constant stage, understanding that gender is not becoming.
In other words, it may take about 7 years for a child to truly understand whether he is a boy or a girl from birth. And this process of children's gender development is the process of children's cognition of the world and the understanding of the surrounding society. In the process of gender recognition, some children will feel shame, and may show unnatural or shyness to other people's private parts. At this time, parents should learn to respect their children's self-esteem and discomfort with different genders, and learn to Children's tolerance and the avoidance of suspicion between the opposite sex.

Three, the enlightenment of children's sex education is all around

Regarding children's sex education, more often parents don't know how to talk about sex. In fact, it's not that difficult. A simple parent-child bath, a brief conversation, and every bit of life can be used to popularize sexual knowledge. 1. Picture books are the right way to punch in on sex education. When you feel that you don’t know how to answer your child’s various sex-related questions and don’t know how to talk to your child, a good picture book can help you answer your child’s questions intuitively and interestingly. doubt. For example, picture books such as "Chicken's Story" and "Breast Story" can help you solve parenting problems! 2. Bathing is the best time for sex education to take a bath with children, whether it is same-sex or opposite-sex parents, or just helping them take a bath, parents can use this opportunity to teach their children the difference between each body part and male and female organs , tell children that sexual organs are the privacy of the body, let them learn to protect their private parts! As for parent-child bathing, it is recommended that girls should not bathe with their father after the age of 3, and boys can extend it to 5-6 years old! 3. Help children establish a concept of privacy. Children around 3 years old already have a certain concept of privacy. When parents take their children for a bath or every bit of life, they can remind their children not to look at the nakedness of others (especially the opposite sex). , and others can't look at and touch the baby's body casually. In addition, in daily life, we should also help children establish the concept of privacy, such as closing the door when going to the toilet and bathing; try not to take children to public toilets and public bathrooms of the opposite sex; avoid inappropriate intimacy in front of children, etc.! In short, sex education is not just to teach children to protect themselves, but more importantly, to teach children to respect each other, especially in front of the opposite sex! Scientific sex education is the most precious gift parents can give their children!
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