what is mom? She is a mother and should be happy

time:2023-02-03 13:09:04source:monlittlebaby.com author:Common phenomenon
what is mom? She is a mother and should be happy

Wen • Li Qian's relative's son still refuses to wash his socks even though he lives in high school. He brings home seven pairs of socks every week. Relatives said a few words to him, and his son actually wholesales dozens of pairs of socks every day, wearing one pair and throwing one pair away. Now that my son is admitted to the military academy, he not only washes his own socks, but also folds tofu quilts. He really bullied Mom. The movie "All About My Mom" ​​has mixed reviews. Some people don't like the image of "suffering mothers" created by the film. It seems that only suffering mothers are "good mothers". But whether you admit it or not, and whether you agree with the values ​​exported by the film, this is indeed the status quo of our mothers. Our mothers always have endless suffering, just like that relative of mine. Everything about my mother is: my mother is everything, but not herself: she is a daughter-in-law, a mother-in-law who has taken care of Alzheimer's disease for decades, and it has long been unclear whether this person is a mother-in-law or a mother; she is a wife, While treating her husband as a meal to open her mouth, she also worries about her husband's unfair treatment; she is a mother, and since the moment she became pregnant and became a mother, she doesn't deserve to have dreams anymore. She is the elder sister, who sent the drug-addicted brother to prison, and has been privately sponsoring the younger brother and sister; she is the teacher of the students; she is the best friend of the women... She is always needed. The movie seems to be a mirror, reflecting only the life of the mother. It's no higher than life, and the mom in the movie is as real as every woman around us. Maybe randomly interview an ordinary aunt who is over 50 years old on the road, and they will tell you what hard work and commitment are. Yes, she is needed. But when she needs it, she is ignored. In the movie, the mother has terminal cancer, but her husband, who has been a doctor all his life, never found out. When she was found, her mother had only a few months to live. When my mother suddenly left one day, we realized that we were so inseparable from her, and she was so neglected. After the death of the mother, every family member has "grown up": the daughter is no longer confused, the husband picks up the scalpel again, and the younger brother returns to justice. It turns out that a mother is not only the mother of the child, but also the "mother" of every family member. Their frustrations and failures, pain and betrayal, only their mother is tolerant and tolerant of them. Just like the song to my mother in the Japanese folk song "Four Seasons Song": like the earth melting ice and snow, it is my mother. Mother is as tough and silent as the earth, so much so that we forget that we are always stepping on the earth. The mother in the movie said that everything is her own choice. My relatives also said that she still loves her son so much. But mothers all over the world are the same. When a Korean mother Hong Rongnv was in her 70s, she began to learn to write with her grandson who was in elementary school. After gradually learning some characters, she wrote a lot of diaries. The six children were busy with their own lives every day, but they never noticed it. It was not until she accidentally discovered several diaries of her mother a few years later that she knew that the old lady was not illiterate. The sons and daughters published her diary, "One Day, Mommy Gets Old." Through the diary of the mother, the children really entered the inner world of the mother: why do you still want to learn to write when you are old? Why are you reluctant to eat and wear what your children give? What is the regret of her life? Where does her loneliness come from? She never mentioned it to the children, but wrote it clumsily in her private diary. It turned out that the children never really knew everything about her, but everything was her choice. In the book "One Day, My Mother Gets Old", Hong Rongnv's children are often unhappy because their mother is reluctant to eat and clothe. In the movie "All About My Mother", the daughter vents her disappointment in life to her mother. In life, we He also often complains about disliking his mother. Psychologically, children always love to lose their temper with their mothers as a sense of security, because children know that no matter how angry they are, their mothers will not abandon them. Being treated like this is a real test for moms. Ordinary people are easily provoked, but smart mothers will find the problem in the child's tantrum: Why does the child cry? Is it because of hunger and sleepiness as a young child, or because of failing exams or a crisis in friendship during adolescence, or because of a lovelorn or job loss as an adult? The mother who has never lost her temper may not be a good mother. The majestic mother uses power to temporarily suppress the conflict. The temporary calm just buried the problem but did not solve the problem. The problem is like a seed that takes root in the soil and germinates. The problem just got out of hand and grew into a big problem. Sometimes it's her own choice to be "bullied" by a mother. When a child is a child, allowing him to vent is an opportunity for him and for his mother. And when there is a mother, a child is always a child, and the occasional little grumble is a happy grumbling. Zhou Guoping said: "It's an instinct to be picky about people close to you, but it's an upbringing to overcome this instinct and not be picky about people close to you." In front of my mother, we all showed our instincts presumptuously. There is no chance. Uncritical upbringing comes from restraint, we will always slowly approach the truth of life, cruel enough to make us mature and let us restrain. I don't know if I should let this day come earlier, but I also hope that my mother will no longer be ignored, and her tolerance to others should also be tolerated by others. Her every choice and her life should be seen and deserved to be seen. Then everything about my mother should be that she is a mother and a happy self.
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