The truth about stay-at-home moms who are out of touch with society

time:2022-12-05 05:16:48source:monlittlebaby.com author:Baby care
The truth about stay-at-home moms who are out of touch with society

Wen Liqian Ellie is many years older than me, and she became a full-time housewife a few years before me. She not only behaves gracefully, but also lives beautifully: her husband is skilled, her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are harmonious, her two children are smart and lovely, and Ellie has always been my idol in life. Now that my second child is born, I am about to face a choice between career and family. Whether becoming a stay-at-home mom is an opportunity or a predicament, I don't know, but the choice is like a watershed moment, and the life that follows may also be very different from before. I had to go to Ellie for advice: if she chooses to be a stay-at-home mom, what can she do to stay out of touch with society? Ellie smiled and asked me: Would working mothers not be out of touch with society? She asked me again if I had been a guest at my friend Guerlain's house. When it comes to Guerlain, I can't help laughing: I don't want to visit her house a second time. Her house is too messy, it's obviously a good and spacious apartment, and there is only one divine beast in the house, but there is no place for me to stay. Guerlain is too busy with work to have time to clean the house. I seem to understand what Ellie means. Guerlain has never left the workplace, and immediately returned to the workplace as soon as her maternity leave was over, but her return to the workplace did not seem to go smoothly. During her maternity leave, a newcomer took her place. After she returned, she did not return the position to her. Moved her elsewhere. The newcomers in the workplace are like flowing water, and Guerlain feels that she is gradually being marginalized. For her, the price of one childbirth is already high enough, and she has no plans to have a second child at all. If I were to return to the workforce, which could also be the situation I'm about to face, I couldn't help expressing my concerns to Ellie. Ellie said that Guerlain's workplace will be like this even if she doesn't get married and have children. She is too greedy. She always wants to take care of both family and work. In fact, it is amazing that we only need to do one thing well. You must know that it takes time and energy to achieve a clean window at home. If you don’t have time, you can also pay for a housekeeper, but she has neither the time nor the desire to pay the money. In her workplace, the reason why Guerlain meets newcomers like flowing water is because she has been working for so many years and has been at the bottom. Guerlain's work ability is average but there is no newcomer's efforts, and family is always an excuse for her not being able to work hard. It's harder to rise when you get older. When there are post-90s or even post-00s around, young people can't get in when they chat. This is actually a very normal phenomenon between generations. Our previous generation doesn't know who papi sauce is, and we don't know EDG either. what is. What made her gradually marginalized was her weak learning ability, which had little to do with maternity leave. The words coming out of Ellie's mouth really convinced me. Before she gave birth to her second child, she had already been in management. When she decided to be a stay-at-home mother, her friends and colleagues were also puzzled. Even after she left for many years, senior management still invited her to come back or consult her younger generation. But only she knew how hard she had worked before. She used to spend the time that originally belonged to the family and children. There was only so much time. Once it was allocated to work, less was allocated to the family. She could see clearly that there was simply nothing that could be taken into account at the same time. For the position, there are many people who are competent for it, and sometimes don't take the platform as your own ability. As for the family, there is only one, irreplaceable. She also said that once her home was as messy as Guerlain's, she always felt that it was because she was too busy with work to take care of cleaning, and she also tried to find a housekeeper, but she never liked the person and effect. Until she made up her mind to clean it herself, she was actually determined to completely change the status quo. She thought that if she had the ability to be powerful in the workplace, she would also be able to completely change the small family. I praised her home as clean and warm like a model room. The appearance of home is the most authentic appearance of a person. It is precisely because I have seen her home that I affirm and admire Ellie from the bottom of my heart. Ellie went on to say that she actually worked hard to change the mess at home, which is no less than a preliminary survey, but the efforts of housewives are not as easy to see as achievements in the workplace: her research Although she has not changed all the furniture, it is so comfortable that it does not show any traces of home design; she checked a lot of information on wardrobe organizers, and has been learning and practicing Japanese storage for a while, only to find out that fast fashion brands are the wardrobes that generate a lot of The source of garbage, since then she rejected fast fashion brands, but she did not expect that even the clothing products will be improved; when she learned that aromatherapy has many health benefits, she paid to learn about aromatherapy, and her two children rarely get sick and eat. Her medicine is over; the most common content she reads on Xiaohongshu is food. At first, she learned to cook from others. Later, she learned more and did it well, and she began to develop new ways of eating to gain praise from others. She now feels that she is not only a wife and a mother of a second child, but also a nutritionist and health practitioner in this family. A filthy and cluttered environment is not only bad for her health but also affects her mood. The most obvious change since she became a full-time mother is that there are fewer quarrels between family members. It was also since she became a housewife that she realized that the family needed her to do too much. The workplace tests a person's ability and efforts, and the family is also a test for people, but the examiner is not a specific individual, but a silent sense of happiness. Whether a person's demeanor and state reveal happiness or not reflects the state of his family. Worrying that a stay-at-home mother is out of touch with society is a complete lack of understanding of how to live a good life and ignoring the efforts of a stay-at-home mother, just like her. Being out of touch with society is the future that everyone will face. Just like some elderly people today cannot use smartphones, we will not understand the way of life of our children and grandchildren in the future. Stay-at-home moms are not alone on the road to social disconnection. But she also does not recommend that all women become full-time mothers. Women who prefer to work hard can of course continue their careers, but don't ignore the family too much and make plans for the family. If the economy allows, all aspects of housework and children's health education can be handed over to professional people, so that you can feel at ease in the workplace. If economic conditions do not allow it, you can only rely on yourself to pay more. And being a full-time mother is just one of her choices. She doesn't need praise or sympathy. When I looked at Ellie who was confident and alive, many questions suddenly became clear. As she said, she has the ability to gallop in the workplace and the ability to make her family happy, and I say that it is precisely because she has the ability to be happy that she has the ability to create everything. Even if we are out of touch with society in the future, what if we think about it carefully, this does not prevent us from enjoying a happy life.
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