Do you know how to talk to children? It is enough to learn these three tones

time:2023-02-03 15:11:04source:monlittlebaby.com author:Baby bones
Do you know how to talk to children? It is enough to learn these three tones

Yelling at your child, and babbling in front of your child are not good ways to communicate with your child. You should know that when you nag and yell, the message to your child is that you are out of control. Once they sense this, they will no longer respect you, and you will not be able to get them to behave well or to do what they are asked to do. Your loss of control can make your child's behavior worse. I've always been amazed that a parent would say something like this to a child: "Do you know how bad you make me feel?" "Go away and leave me alone!" "You really irritate people! You It's... annoying!" "Shut your mouth when I'm talking to you!" "Get out of here! Go back to your room and be nice to me!" , if you want to make your child feel small and destroy his self-esteem, you are on the right track. Some parents pride themselves on never hitting their children, but they don't hesitate to use vicious language to hurt their children, which is simply abuse. So how do we talk to our children? When talking to children, treat them with respect, care for them, be clear, understand them, and be calm. How can I talk to my child when he is upset, hungry for understanding, or unable to calm down? Just listen carefully, don't interrupt them, don't silence them, and don't ignore them. Acknowledge their feelings and guide them without jumping to conclusions or telling them the answer right away. Sometimes you may find that a child raises a problem that you do not have the ability to solve immediately. Faced with such problems, parents often show panic, depression or anxiety. You have to stay calm at this point. You can say to your child, "How do we handle this?" Give him guidance and encourage him to think for himself. Let him know that you have a general grasp of the problem, even if there is no specific solution yet. The way you respond can have an important impact on how your child solves problems. This is how you should talk to your child. Different tone, different effect. I always thought that parents and children should have at least three different tones when speaking. ★ Everyday Tone This calm tone should be used in everyday communication with your child. If you command or order your children to do this or that in a stern, loud tone, you are conveying to your children the fact that you expect them not to do what you tell them to do. The same can happen if you sound anxious and helpless. When you ask your child to do something, use a polite tone. If you are not polite to your child, don't expect the child to be polite. "Please wash your hands before you eat." "Please tidy up your room, please?" Speak in a calm, rational voice, and don't use an apologetic or begging tone. ★ Majestic tone If your child does something wrong or doesn't do what you asked him to do, you must use a majestic tone. Don't yell at him from across the room, and don't criticize him for being utterly disfigured. Walk up to him, crouch down to the same height as him, and make direct eye contact with him. If he tries to turn his face away or run away, grab his arm and say to him, "Look at me, I'm talking to you." Tell your child what he's doing wrong in a low, firm, dignified tone. "I told you to clean up the room, and now I'll ask you to do it." Ignore your child's backlash, arguments, or bargaining. Separate the child from his behavior: You are not blaming the child, you want him to know that his behavior is unacceptable in your opinion. If the child still refuses to do what he was asked to do, you should warn him in a dignified tone - if he does not obey, he will be punished. (For punishment techniques you can use, see "The Naughty Ladder Technique and More" on page 168). It is very important that he is given only one warning before the penalty, and then action is taken. If you warn him three, four, five, six times, he'll know that you're just bluffing to threaten him. ★ The tone of appreciation This tone is high-pitched, revealing excitement, and conveys joy. Praise your child for good behavior in this tone—especially when the child does something right without being asked by an adult. "Thank you for clearing the table, great job!" Be careful with older children and don't act like a superior person in front of them. If you stun kids when they do something wrong, and you don't praise them when they're doing well, they'll use bad behavior as the only way to get your attention and unhealthy love. Many people find it difficult to express their majesty calmly, why? Because at this point they are out of control. Some parents have to feel like they can express their majesty or find the courage to express themselves when their temper flares up. Watch your child's behavior and find out what's causing you to react unfriendly. Learn to respond to your child's behavior in a calm, direct and authoritative manner without throwing a tantrum. If parents find it difficult to stand their ground in front of their children, I usually have them practice in the mirror until they feel comfortable in their roles. For example, in the Colin family, the mother was not very confident. She was confused by the aggressive behavior of the children. Even standing in front of the mirror would make her feel embarrassed, so she never dared to look directly at herself. (I call it the Diana look. You know the look—the shy, insecure look when you look at people). I explained to her that she had to look up to herself before the kids would respect her. In the Cook homes I have served, mother Denise and eldest daughter Megan have a very poor relationship. Nine-year-old Meghan has a strong personality and is very stubborn. Dealing with Meghan's behavior - rudeness, biting, hitting - drained Denise, who felt powerless in every way. With this thought in mind, Denise felt incapable of punishing her daughter, making Meghan even more confrontational. For Denise, punishment is like a punching bag. When mother and daughter quarrel, both want to outdo each other. It's thought-provoking that Meghan's tone is exactly the same as her mother's when they yell at each other. "No, it's actually like that!" "It's not like that, it's like that!" They were both irritating each other. It took Denise a long time to realize that she had to set an example for her children and not relegated herself to the level of a daughter. If you make a change, the people around you will change, and it's the change that makes Meghan feel threatened. 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