There is a kind of parenting concept that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. Poor families raise children in this way, which will seriously delay the children's future.

time:2023-02-03 15:32:45source:monlittlebaby.com author:Maternal-Child Nursing
There is a kind of parenting concept that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. Poor families raise children in this way, which will seriously delay the children's future.

Text | Cheats, there are many sayings about raising children. The concept of "raising sons and raising daughters richly" is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people and has become the basis for many parents to raise children. Of course, today’s parents feel that their material life is already very rich, and their sons don’t need to be poor. They should be rich, and they don’t need to let their children suffer from the hardships they have suffered and the poverty they have suffered. In order to prevent their children from becoming inferior due to their sense of deprivation, many families have begun to raise their children richly. But if the families who are not wealthy earnestly raise their children in this way, they are actually leading the children to a dead end. There is a couple in my hometown who set up a stall to do business in the town. Because they were afraid that their son would be despised by his classmates because of his parents' behavior, they bought the best food and drink for his son. His son wears 1000 or 2000 branded shoes. Every time he invites his classmates to dinner, he spends hundreds of thousands of dollars. During the winter and summer vacations, his parents will give him a large amount of money to travel, which is considered as an expense for meeting the world. As for the parents themselves, their clothes cost no more than 100 yuan, and they bring their own dry food and water at noon, so they live extremely frugally. They said that most of the money they earn every month is spent on their children. "What's the matter? Parents are not all for their children." This child is currently in junior high school. Supporting him will give him the illusion that his living standard is quite high and his family background is good. But when he tries to gain a foothold in the society after graduating from college, he will find that his parents are far from giving him the support he wants. At this time, he is used to what he wants, and he will resent his parents. At the same time, because he is spoiled, I'm not used to working hard, I just want to sit back and enjoy it. It is extremely difficult to correct a little bit. It can be said that raising a child in this way in a poor family is actually leading the child to a dead end. If the family is not rich, how can we properly "raise" children? When it comes to this, some people will ask, what is the best way to raise children richly? Is it not possible for a poor family to be rich enough to raise children? But what if the child has a sense of material deprivation and becomes inferior? In fact, if parents cannot meet the material needs raised by their children, they only need to make it clear to the children that "this is beyond our ability". Don't overplay, feel that the child is not considerate of the parents and get angry; don't be yin and yang strange, let the child have a kind of "I can't do it because I don't deserve it" mentality. Because the child's sense of lack actually comes from the "unworthy" psychology. Because of the feeling that I don't deserve anything, the low self-esteem comes from this. Raising children rich is actually to eliminate this "undeserving" mentality of children. Therefore, in parenting, parents should pay more attention to discovering the bright spots of their children and praise them more. If the child encounters difficulties in doing things, setting up scaffolding to let the child go through the difficulties smoothly will increase his sense of competence. In this way, the child will become more confident. If the child puts forward higher material requirements, but the parents are unable to meet it, they can directly explain the reason to him "this thing is too expensive, we can't afford it". At the same time guide him to distinguish what is necessary and what is not needed. Keep in mind the principle of "don't give your child what you can't bear", so that parents can stay awake in the parenting process, so that they don't cross the line because they want to be rich and become overly spoiled. Senior nursery teacher, psychological counselor. He understands parenting and psychology, and also pays attention to the mother's self-growth and family management, and strives to be a caring person for mothers. Welcome to [Parenting Cheats], you can find the answers here for everything you want to know about parenting care, growth and development, family education, and mental health!
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