All the problems encountered by parents on the way of raising a baby can be analyzed according to two principles, and the answers can be found

time:2023-02-03 14:54:13source:monlittlebaby.com author:Maternal-Child Nursing
All the problems encountered by parents on the way of raising a baby can be analyzed according to two principles, and the answers can be found

Text | Cheats A friend chatted with me some time ago. After asking some questions about doing homework with the baby, she suddenly said with emotion: When the mother is very troubled, a lot of parenting problems need to be solved when the child is young. Start worrying about education. I feel like a firefighter, and I have to struggle to find the answer to any problem my child encounters. Once a problem is solved, a new problem arises. Is there a once-and-for-all solution, as long as parents encounter a parenting problem and follow this method to find the answer, the problem can always be solved? Like a master key, can one key solve many problems? I replied that there really is. In fact, what my friend is talking about is the issue of "skills" and "dao" in parenting. "Art" refers to various solutions, and "Tao" refers to the principles by which these solutions are derived. I'm not bragging. All the problems that parents encounter on the way of raising a baby can be found by analyzing them according to two principles. Principle 1: When a child has a problem, the reason must be found in the parents. A psychologist once said: In a family, when a child has a problem and comes to a psychiatrist, it often means that the whole family has a problem, and his parents The problem is more serious. If a child has various "problems", it can be as small as biting nails, swearing and swearing, or as big as being tired of school, skipping classes, and feeling depressed. Then there must be something wrong with the whole family. Either one of the parents is in a wrong condition, or it is the soil of the parent-child relationship - the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious. A mother once asked me very distressedly that she gave up her job for her child and brought her baby at home for three years. As a result, after the child went to kindergarten, the teacher said that the child was very insecure, and was very timid and unconfident. She did not understand that she had paid so much. Many, why is the child still like this? After chatting, I found that the mother's mood is very unstable and has a tendency to be mildly depressed. She told me that when she said something that the child didn't listen to, she would suddenly get angry, slap the table and make her palm hurt, and the child would cry with fright. I sighed, this was the source of the child's insecurity - the sudden outburst of her mother's emotions, which became a thunderbolt that caused him to tremble. As for the child's lack of self-confidence, it is because the mother is always immersed in her own emotions and rarely praises and encourages the child. If you feel that your child's social skills are poor, parents may wish to think about how they socialize and create conditions for their children? If you feel that your child is pessimistic and self-abandoned, you might as well think about whether there is something wrong with yourself recently and brought this feeling back home? Principle 2: Parents must do whatever they want their children to do Why are you lazy?" If parents find that their children can't always do something, they can think about whether they have done it first. As soon as my cousin-in-law knew that reading was good for study, she forced her children to read books every day. But the more she urged the child, the more she didn't move, and the cousin-in-law was very angry about it. I suggested that she take a book first, but my cousin was surprised: I haven't touched a book for more than ten years, so what kind of book do I still read? The matter is over. Later, she asked me again, and I told the truth. This time she made up her mind and started to read the book herself. Although the cousin took a magazine and sometimes secretly hid a mobile phone in the pages of the book, the little nephew was obviously affected and started to bring the book and sit next to his mother. The underlying logic of this principle is that children's habits are nurtured by the family atmosphere. How can a child naturally acquire a habit if there is no adult in the family doing that? Some parents said, this is too difficult, as a parent, can't I have my own life? Does everything have to be the top priority for setting an example for children? Parents can of course have their own lives, and they don't have to do things they don't want to do for their children. But be careful, if you don't do it yourself, don't force your child to do it. It's not fair to the children, is it? Senior nursery teacher, psychological counselor. He understands parenting and psychology, and also pays attention to the mother's self-growth and family management, and strives to be a caring person for mothers. Welcome to [Parenting Cheats], you can find the answers here for everything you want to know about parenting care, growth and development, family education, and mental health!
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