Elders who help their children with children must keep these three bottom lines, otherwise they may not be thankful for their efforts.

time:2022-12-05 05:01:23source:monlittlebaby.com author:Sneeze
Elders who help their children with children must keep these three bottom lines, otherwise they may not be thankful for their efforts.

The elderly all hope that they can be "useful in their old age", and they have a very deep love for children. Therefore, after Fang's own children have babies, the elderly often take the initiative to help their children to take care of their children. Lighten the burden of raising your children. However, when the elderly help to take care of their children, they must keep three bottom lines. If these three bottom lines cannot be kept, then there will likely be a situation of "thanks for their efforts". The first bottom line: The old man must be clear that he is an elder, not a nanny. When I was a child, I had a neighbor Xiaoyu, and we had a good relationship, so that my brother and my parents were very close, and we often visited . And now that we are all grown up, Xiaoyu married and went out of town, but her brother is still in the local area and got married. When Xiaoyu's sister-in-law gave birth to a child, Xiaoyu's parents were very excited to help Xiaoyu's sister-in-law take care of the child. . In my eyes, Xiaoyu's brother's family is very happy: Xiaoyu's brother goes to work, Xiaoyu's sister-in-law takes care of her body, and Xiaoyu's parents take care of the baby. Everything is so harmonious and happy. However, these are only superficial phenomena. Later, when Xiaoyu's mother found my mother to complain, I learned that Xiaoyu's parents were not happy. It turned out that Xiaoyu's parents were very conscientious when they came to Xiaoyu's brother's house to help Xiaoyu's sister-in-law bring the baby. For example, coaxing children, holding children, changing diapers, washing diapers, etc., also undertakes all household chores at home, including cleaning clothes at home, sweeping and mopping floors, cooking and washing dishes, etc. At the beginning, sister-in-law Xiaoyu was more grateful to the second old man, but after a long time, sister-in-law Xiaoyu became accustomed to this state of life, and her thinking gradually changed. The mood gradually declined, and even after that, if the second elder did not cook on time or clean up, he would be criticized by Xiaoyu's sister-in-law from time to time. He paid a lot, but he was not read well by Xiaoyu's sister-in-law, which made the old man very sad. Speaking of which, many people may think that Xiaoyu's sister-in-law is a little naive. But in fact, people all have such a kind of life inertia. When something has existed for a long time, people will think that it should exist. And then, if things have changed, then people will blame the person who caused the change in that event. Therefore, if the elderly want to help their children, they will not be "sad", then it is best to "release" their love for their children in peacetime, and let the children always understand that the elderly are elders, not nanny In this way, children will be grateful for the contributions made by the elderly and realize that many things are not for the elderly to do, but for the elderly to help themselves to share. The second bottom line: the old people must understand that the times are progressing, and the ideas must be updated. When talking about some problems in modern society, I often hear my mother say a sentence: "Think back to when we were...", such as talking about children When it comes to diet problems, I say that children need to have a nutritious diet and eat more variety every day. And the old man will say at this time, they are thankful that they can eat white rice and rice at that time, usually they can't even eat enough to eat, and they don't care about nutrition. Isn't it all good to grow up so big. In fact, such a phenomenon occurs in many families now. Many elderly people feel that they have rich experience. When they have children, they do not like to listen to the opinions of young people. the most accurate. However, if the old man has been taking the baby in this attitude, there will be a result of "thanks for the effort", and this situation is very common. For example, there was an old man who worried that his child would "catch a cold" in the summer, so he wrapped the child in three layers and three layers of clothes, which eventually caused the child to suffer from heat stroke. When the old man took the child, the child accidentally suffered trauma. As a result, the old man smeared the soil on it, saying that it stopped the bleeding, but it almost didn't get infected. What impresses me most is the case of our child's wrist injury: at that time, the child's grandfather was taking the child. He thought the child was "skilled" in climbing the locker at home. As a result, the child fell and broke one. The water glass, the glass slag of the water glass cut a deep wound on the child's wrist, and all the fat leaked out, but the child's grandfather used the white wine he drank at home to "sterilize" the child, and then put white sugar "treatment", and then The child said that he was sleepy, and the grandfather of the child let the child go to sleep. At that time, when I came home from get off work and saw this scene, I felt that the sky was falling, and I quickly took the child to the hospital emergency room. Fortunately, I got home early, and the child ended up with only a scar. Sometimes, the elderly really need to update their ideas, because the elderly had no conditions when they were young, and it was a helpless move. And those behaviors are totally incorrect right now. Therefore, when the elderly take care of their babies, no matter their thinking or emergency measures, they need to keep pace with the times, and do not rely on the old to sell the old. The third bottom line: the elderly should pay attention, or they should not bring them, and if they want to bring them, they must be serious when they returned to their hometown during the summer vacation, something happened in their hometown. At that time, the neighbor's grandma Wang took her grandson at home, but the neighbor asked her to play mahjong, so she went with her grandson. Because grandma Wang was too concentrated when playing mahjong, she didn't notice that the children on the side left alone because they were bored watching grandma playing cards for a long time. But when Grandma Wang came back to her senses, she realized that the child was gone. But at this time, Grandma Wang did not leave the poker game, but continued to play poker, thinking only that "the child is probably going home". As a result, when the old man went home in the evening and could not find his grandson, when he came to ask Grandma Wang, Grandma Wang panicked and hurriedly mobilized the neighbors to look for it together. As a result, it took a few hours to find the child in the river ditch beside the village. Was playing in the water with several other children, and there was no adult around. Fortunately, it's all right this time, but not everyone is so lucky. I think everyone can see many tragedies caused by the inattentiveness of the elderly and the baby on TV. Therefore, the elderly should pay attention. If you don’t want to bring a baby, don’t bring it. Since you have a baby, take it seriously. Don’t lose this bottom line. It is not wrong to write at the end that it is not wrong for the elderly to feel sorry for their children, but when helping their children with their children, they must pay attention to these three bottom lines. If not, it will be a thankless effort, and in serious cases, it may damage the baby's health, and the gains will outweigh the gains in the end. (The pictures in this article are all from the Internet, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete)
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